Look What The Cat Dragged In...

Well, well, well….look what the fucking cat dragged in: The girl who tried to Baby Boom herself into a new life, failing miserably, only to move back to NYC on February 10th, 2020, to work in the industry she left, three weeks before the Coronavirus made its debut appearance in NYC, baby! What a goddamn fucking idiot.

All those long-winded navel-gazing posts about how I was ready to change it all! Throwing away the woman who would bend over backwards at jobs and would work herself into an early grave! The woman who would embrace the wilderness and hike her way into a new life! The woman who didn’t need to fill her days and would be content to roast root vegetables and make terrariums for the local old-folks home. HAHAHHAHA. Yeah. Uh. So. About that? It’s amazing what acute isolation, a shattered wrist from the snow, an asthma attack that culminated with me in my underwear in 13 degree weather at 5am attempting to shock my lungs into breathing, and daily trips down a ice gauntlet hill will make you reconsider. And, reconsider I did, friends. I was plucked from my maple-syrup hibernation and brought back to the world I left behind! The best way to describe it: imagine if Violet Beauregard from Willy Wonka, after whatever terrors happened “while juicing” , decided to go BACK to Wonka’s factory and fucking chomp on that three-course meal gum AGAIN, knowing full fucking well what would happen to her. That’s me!!! I did that! Only I did that and there was a virus that decided to descend upon the world at the exact same time.

When people said, “ you know, it really takes a special person to move all the way to Vermont when you don’t know anyone” - well then it really takes an EXTRA SPECIAL person to move back to New York during the start of a pandemic. I’m not sure what that says about my mental health or my fearlessness when it comes to putting myself in the path of danger, but I’m sure my therapist will have some insights. What I will say is, if one does decided to move from a Hallmark channel fever dream, make sure you fully commit to the move. Do not, and I mean this seriously, do not say “I’ll start the job and come back in 3-4 weeks to get my furniture moved down”. Because, what will happen is that the virus that was once worlds away, will be strutting through the streets of NYC like a Rhinestone fucking Cowboy, and you, you dumb, dumb, dummy, will be in a new apartment without ANY MOTHERFUCKING FURNITURE WHEN THE CITY GOES INTO GODDAMN LOCKDOWN. Friends, I was eventually able to get a mattress, tv and one ONE!! chair. And that is how I spent March - May of 2020 in a little Brooklyn apartment. Sitting on the ground, doing zoom calls and pouring bourbon into my coffee at 10am. The past two years have been a ride. If I thought Vermont was a strain, well, this was something completely different. There will be time enough to tell you about how I got arrested, or ending up working from a Hosptial gurney with the “flu” at the beginning of the pandemic, or how we shot a tv show for an entire year next to a dump. But those are for another day.

Anywho, here I am. Living back in New York and the walking embodiment of what happens when you try and “eat pray love” your life, but instead its just a lot of crying in snowdrifts and making soup. Hey, At least I gave it a fucking shot, ya know?

Too Stupid To Live - Keepin' Thanksgiving Horny w/ Becky Feldman!

I had a wonderful time chatting with Becky Feldman on TOO STUPID TO LIVE - her podcast where she reviews romance novels of a certain price-point. The book she picked for us to review is the timeless tale of a super horny, very insane, Thanksgiving romance, where the turkey ain’t the only one gettin’ stuffed. It was absolutely bonkers and I loved getting to chat w/ Becky about my love of erotic pioneer stories, hatred of public declarations of love, and the horniest tv show of all time, Silk Stalkings. Check out the episode here:

Over The Hill

Feeling Fit. Feeling Flirty.

Feeling Fit. Feeling Flirty.

Yesterday was my birthday. I turned 40. F O R T Y. 40! I mean, what the hell even is that number? That’s middle fucking age! People have children leaving for college at 40! I’m closer in age to getting my goddamn AARP benefits than I am to my 21st birthday. That is insane, and honestly, I’m not ok with it! I’m not. There is something about this specific birthday, this specific age, that has thrown me for a fucking LOOP. I’d like to tell y’all that this is just a midlife crisis, but I think its more of an overall, “I’m hurtling through time and space, with a finite amount of moments left, and what the fuck do I have to show for it all” vibe. Good times. Great oldies.

The upside to a midlife crisis would be that, at least from what pop-culture has taught me, I’d be blowing my wad on an iROC Z and having an affair with my step-son/pool boy before being embroiled in a sexy murder (I watched A LOT of Silk Stalkings during my formative years). Instead, I’ve spent the ramp-up to 40 comparing myself to others. Which, again, kids - do NOT follow my lead in any aspect of my life. Because once you start down that path, especially as a single woman who just threw her career into a food processor, with her the window for childbearing closing like a booby trapped door in an Indiana Jones movie (maybe I’ll be able to grab my fedora before the proverbial stone slams to the ground, but probably not), well lets just say the compare game at this point is a journey into darkness. I mean, I compared myself to E V E R Y O N E. My former bosses. Friends. People I see on Instagram. The dickbag assistant I worked with who I once clocked in his perfectly square jaw with a piece of German Christmas candy from a Wolfgang Petersen gift basket my boss didn’t want, after said assistant asked me with a straight face, “what sort of sick beats” I had been listening to …knowing damn well it was Steve Winwood. Oh yeah, I went down that rabbit hole hard. This same assistant had zero interest in film, but loved making money. He used phrases like, “crushing it” and had the most handsome, fucking punchable face. He had perfect posture. Wore perfectly pressed and crisp dress shirts that were tailored to his very lean, but oddly muscular frame. Once he was lifting something above my head and his shirt rode up and I realized he had those “v” muscles (cumgutters are I believe the scientific term) and that was NOT fucking fair. I wanted to kick him in the dick, but also deeply kiss him. Awful combo. He religiously read the GQ gift guides and would send me gifting suggestions. When a coworker would send out an email with a mistake in it, he would take it upon himself to hit reply all and then give a quick lesson on professionalism and how every!! mistake!! matters!! He once told me that, as he choked back vomit looking at my car, that he couldn’t believe I had the balls to valet my Toyota Camry at CAA. I had to fedex orange Gatorade to South Africa for him to give to our boss because he called me in the middle of the night in the midst of a breakdown because he couldn’t handle said boss complaining about how the South African orange tasted different than the American Orange anymore. Anyway, he just produced something with Zac Efron, so he’s doing great. My journey into the lives of others produced similar results. It felt like everyone I came up with in the industry were thriving. They had produced their own shit. Had blurbs about their successes posted on Deadline. They own homes in the Hollywood Hills like a fucking Bob Seger song. They got married. Had kids. They’re in that midlife that people dream about. They’re the characters in This Is 40. Folks from where I grew up? Fuck, I mean they seem to be on their 3rd or 4th McMansion. With kids getting close to graduating High School. They sling Beauty Counter products and spend their time crafting signs that say shit like, “Wine a little, Laugh a lot” and shit. They go to church. Don’t seem to be having an existential crisis and live what I call a blissfully unaware existence. For example, the Trump presidency/Impeachment/Global Warming? None of that seems to worry them. They go about their day to day routines, losing their shit over Pumpkin Spice Latte season and craft deals at Hobby Lobby and life seems, if not amazing, fine.

Once I had exhausted all the research on people I actually knew, I went and did something REALLY fucked up. When my middle of the night insomnia would hit (2am on the dot, nightly) I would google how old the actors playing the parents were on my favorite shows growing up. I am warning you now, stop reading if you don’t want to be absolutely SHOOK. Meredith Baxter Birney, the mom from Family Ties? THIRTY FIVE when the show started. Michael Gross, the father from Family Ties and who every man in Vermont slowly finds himself morphing into, also THIRTY FIVE. Judith Light from Who’s The Boss? 35! I’d google how old Henry was from Punky Brewster, but with my luck it would say the dude was like, 34 but “playing older”. Sure, Alan Thicke was 38 when Growing Pains started, but homeboy was supposed to be a successful Psychiatrist and also have three kids and that big ass house. BY 38?! I STILL EAT TOP RAMEN! Once I didn’t want to clean my room, so I just started sleeping in the guest room! For months! That’s where I’m at mentally right now. And these folks were supposed to be settled! Settled enough that they could worry with precocious kids and not about the meaning of life/how they were going to pay their heating bills? Fuck me.

So yeah, I went into my 40th birthday with all those comparisons rattling around in the back of my head, reminding me that I’m behind the 8 ball as far as career and family goes, not to mention feeling a little bit adrift out here in Maple Syrup land. It’s a weird thing to hit what society deems “the big one” and not have a bunch of really close people to celebrate with - it feels indulgent. Like, “hi I know you peripherally from the farmers market and we enjoy grabbing drinks sometime, would you please come and celebrate ME!?”. It just feels…off. And while these people are my friends, they haven’t known me for years. Which for me feels strange. And, I’m just going to say it - I don’t like planning shit for myself. Again, it feels indulgent and presumptuous. But seemed like all of my friends who hit 40 did big shit. They took incredible trips. Had surprise parties thrown where people from all over came together to celebrate them. Some had multiple events! Everyone seemed happy. In good head-spaces! Excited to celebrate! As embarrassing and self-centered as it sounds, I wanted that too. I wanted someone in my life to basically take the reigns so we could celebrate what a fucking trip it is that my sorry-ass has somehow made it to 40. Despite the vendetta Vermont has against me. Despite the stress and woe and my overall bad luck. Despite that, I’m still here. And I wanted that to be worth celebrating. But, that wasn’t exactly the case. Life happens. People have their own shit going on - understandably. And my woes are my own. So I spent my 40th birthday eating a salad and having a glass of wine by myself. I had some birthday texts and very funny well wishes that warmed my Grinch heart. I came home to a snowblower that some friends pitched in to get me so that I’d hopefully make it out of 2020 in one piece. I’m extremely excited to create snow crop-circles with that beast. Another friend tracked down my favorite flower lady in Vermont, off-season, and had her deliver an arrangement and some wine to my door. And another friend sent me a print of a woman walking serenely though the wood, based on a Mary Oliver poem. I know I’m loved, but the isolation out here is tough. And spending my birthday with all that other shit weighing me down has been a lot to process. It’s been a bit of a bummer. Though, it could always be worse.

While working with the beefcake assistant, our boss at the time decided he would like to treat me by sending me to set since I was the one coordinating EVERYTHING. Mind you, the majority of the that film shoot had been in Hawaii. Just tropical waters. Sexy actors. Sun-kissed bodies and the joy of film-making. That would not be my gift. Instead, I got to go to the stage/green-screen portion of the shoot. Which was being done in November in a weird facility outside Baton Rouge. During this time, my flying anxiety was still VERY real and I had to be VERY medicated to get on a plane without losing my shit. My travel was set for my actual birthday, and the plan was once I landed in Baton Rouge, I’d go with the hunky assistant out to a nice dinner on the boss. Some real wine and dine shit. And as much as I LOATHED that prick, spending the evening looking at his 80s movie villain mug, wouldn’t be all that bad. Yeah, that wouldn’t be the case. After being filled to the gills with anxiety meds that could knock-out a Rhino, boarding the plane and preparing to depart, we learned that somehow the cockpit door had become jammed after a pilot had walked out to get something, and he couldn’t get back in and the other fella couldn’t get out. So, we sat on the tarmac for about 5 hours. My meds slowly wearing off so that by the time we did make it airborne, long after we should’ve arrived in Louisiana, I could feel every fucking emotion. Just pure fear and adrenaline ratcheting through my body. The birthday gift I never wanted. The real icing on this shit-cake was that due to the delay, it meant I missed my connection and instead had to grab the last tic-tac from Atlanta to Baton Rouge. Which, was my actual nightmare. Un-drugged and flying on what are known to have the highest commercial crash numbers. Oh, I also spent a lot of time feeding this fear on websites dedicated to compiling the last words of pilots from black box recordings, so just know I was truly freaked. I will not go into the details of the mental break I had on that small plane, but lets just say I won’t show my face on that leg ever again. I finally landed in Baton Rouge around 11pm. Dinner was obviously a no go. My luggage was lost. So I spent that birthday eating a lunch-able I purchased from one of those weird concession rooms at a Courtyard Marriott. And that wasn’t even close to being my worst birthday! In college a couple friends decided to throw a few of us a joint surprise party. Two of us being celebrated figured out the surprise, and in the process learned that they had invited almost everyone in the Oregon Greek System. The entire bar area of a restaurant had been reserved to handle the amount of attendees!! Reader, you see where this is going right? We arrived to find that out of a couple hundred invited, maybe 12-15 people showed up? I’m not even exaggerating. It was a letdown to say the least. The girl who hadn’t figure out about the party prior to the event had a fucking great time, though. See what I’m saying about being blissfully unaware? Live your life like that girl - ignore the blatant signs around you that a party is being planned, and just go with the fucking flow. But still, STILL, that’s not even close to the birthday I celebrated while working for Harvey.

On my birthday while working for HW, it landed on a Saturday when he was coming back from some trip and had a small window before leaving again. And that meant I had this one shot to get checks signed. So, I got up early and met his plane at JFK, and hitched a ride with him back to the city. The plan was that on the drive back, I’d get him to sign checks, and some other documents, and when we got to his house, I would get out, take an uber to the office, drop that shit off and spend the rest of the afternoon day-drinking like I was an extra in Sex in the City. Instead, like most situations with Harvey, shit went sideways. I ended up spending the entire day with him, going from meeting to meeting, sitting in his house helping to take dictations, while he ruined everyone’s weekend, inventing work that needed to be done RIGHT NOW! At one point, late in the afternoon he went to a meeting at Monkey Bar, or one of those places, and we had been stuck in Times Square traffic for a long time. The car was stuffy, and he had been traveling overnight which meant he was farting up a fucking storm. And I’m sitting in the back seat of a too warm Lexus SUV, while this goblin farts all around me. Attempting to type dictations and not get car sick. The smell of car leather, farts and his chocolate protein shake that I had to make a pit-stop to make for him, was a terrible, terrible combination. I couldn’t tell if I was about to barf on him or have an asthma attack - but the asthma attack won. So as were sitting in traffic, I rummage through my bag to find my rescue inhaler, pull it out and go to take a puff, and the second I’m done shooting that medicine down my gullet, I feel his hand fucking whoosh past my face and swat the inhaler out of my grip and it ricochets up to the driver’s seat, as he screams, “WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT!!!!” I do not know what scared him about the inhaler….maybe it just startled him? Maybe he doesn’t like aerosol shit? I don’t know, but I do know is that he was VERY freaked and angry. So I start laughing, which makes him angrier. When we pulled up to the curb for him to get out, he said for me to never do that again (breathe? not sure). Then I got to twiddle my thumbs for another hour or so, waiting for him to finish his meeting. After spending the entire day, from dawn till dusk, trapped in the back of the car with him, around 8pm he finally told me I was done for the day. His driver, being braver than most, hollered after him as he shuffled to his house, “Aren’t you going to wish her a happy birthday?” and Harvey just laughed and kept walking. I rescheduled my birthday drinks for the next morning at some hipster dining on the Lower East Side. I was ready to go BIG! My first birthday living in NYC. I was Working Girl! I was Party Girl! I was a hip, hip lady with a wild ass Hollywood job and I was ready to cut loose! We hadn’t even gotten the first round of mimosas before my phone started ringing off the hook. First was my mom. I hit ignore. Then was my estranged dad. I hit ignore. Then my mom again. And then my dad. And then a cousin. It was around then I realized something was wrong. Oh, no biggie - just my family calling to say my fucking Grandma had died the night before, on my goddamn birthday. So, yes, I am well aware, spending an evening alone with a glass of wine and locally sourced butter lettuce salad with tamari roasted seeds is not the worst it can be. I’ve already experienced that. But its all relative, and in a certain head space it can not feel great.

I woke up this morning feeling a little better about the whole thing, well if not better, resigned I suppose? And I have Nancy Meyers to thank for that. No, seriously. Last night, I put on BABY BOOM as I fell asleep. I guess I’m hoping that somehow leaving it on while I sleep will cause me to absorb JC Wiatt’s trajectory, thus causing me to SECRET a handsome vet and a Jeep Grand Wagoneer into my life. But instead, when I awoke, as usual, at 2am this morning - I decided to google someone else. I googled Diane Keaton’s age when she made Baby Boom….Forty ONE! FORTY ONE! Ok! Now we’re fucking getting somewhere. Sure, that character was a corporate bigwig -a wall street dynamo with a very cold, very 80s modern apartment that she shared with Harold Ramis (lol), and yes, she bought her house in Vermont outright….BUT! That baby? She didn’t have it with her 41 year old womb. She inherited her! And It didn’t matter if she owned the house or had a corporate background, she still lost her absolute mind and ended up spending her days making applesauce. Mental breakdowns for women trying to live their best life can happen at any age! But as Diane proved, you can really hit your meltdown sweet spot at 41. And the vet? I haven’t met him yet, but there is still time! I’m only 40! Diane Keaton was 41! And don’t come to me saying, “Morgan that is a fictional character living fictional events” - do you think common sense has ever stopped me from basing my entire life on a stupid movie I watched as a child? No fucking way! Baby, I moved to Vermont based on this nonsense, its way too late to stop now. So I’ve got a year. One year to really just figure my shit out. One year….seems tough. Seems like an uphill battle. But ya know what was tough? JC Wiatt playing at a man’s game in the battlefield that is the boardroom. You know what’s an uphill battle? Making fucking applesauce from scratch and selling it to yuppies coming to weekend in Stowe! And saying no to a big box store payout and your corporate life back in NYC? THAT’S HARD! But bitch, COUNTRY BABY AIN’T FOR SALE. So for the next year, instead of wallowing in my woes and my lacking, I’m gonna nut-the-fuck-up, embrace my inner Keaton, and use this time. THIS IS MY NANCY MEYERS JESUS YEAR. And I’m going to figure my shit out.

Now if you’ll excuse me, I have to go put my snowblower together and see about some canning supplies.

HGTV EROTICA PART 2: LOVE IT OR LUST IT


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Homeowner Edie watched as David flashed his wicked goblin smile at her and began…

 “Edie, I didn’t get to be a top selling Canadian realtor by just finding homes for my clients. I find them a new way of life…and after being with you today, I can see that there is something you need more than granite counter tops or new copper pipes…”

The air was heavy with everything left unsaid. Edie felt David’s beady little weasel eyes pour over every inch of her body. It felt like the first time a man, a goblin man, had LOOKED at her and it shook her to the damn core.

 “You’re as cold as a Toronto winter and I want to warm you up”, David hissed.

With that, he took his lizard-like claw and gently wiped a stray droplet of chocolate martini from the corner of Edie’s mouth. She inhaled sharply, and David just smiled, drawing his thumb to his mouth and licking off the chocolate. Every ounce of her womanhood was set aflame. David stood and drew her out of the booth with him –  the pulsating Caribbean beats of Sade’s sensual music blared from the jukebox. He pulled her close, drawing her into an embrace, where she could feel his elfin manhood pressing into her thigh. His raw animal desire pulsed to the beat of the music. He could smell the want and longing on her – he knew this was his moment. He grabbed her, and wordlessly dragged her to his car. They spent the entire car ride in silence, the only sound was the rain on the windshield and their heavy panting. They both wanted this.

When they arrived, Edie couldn’t help but be in awe of David’s place – it was exactly what you’d expect from a top realtor – it was modern and had ALL the upgrades. She knew he must pay a pretty penny in HOA fees, but that only made her lust for him more.

With a flick of a remote, David clicked on his fireplace, and Michael Buble began playing over his PA system. He winked, and walked over to his bar where he poured them each a shot of Malibu Rum. They gulped it down, staring into each other’s eyes. Before she knew it, David grabbed her wrist and pulled her to him…

Her heart raced. His mouth found hers, and Edie’s breath hitched as his reptilian tongue darted out to trace her plump lips. He parted her lips, and it forced its way into her warm, inviting mouth. Their tongues tangled and darted and before long, their hands began groping and tearing at each other’s clothes. They stumbled closer to the fire, and David pulled Edie down onto to the cream Berber rug. Edie was fully under his spell. Whatever momentary guilt she felt for this indiscretion, was immediately put to rest by the growing, wanton lust, she felt in her womanhood.

 Edie wasn’t sure what came over her – she had always been reserved in what she wanted, but whatever this was with David, this, was different. She wanted EVERYTHING. And she wanted him to give it to her now. Edie knelt before David on the sensible, yet chic rug, and ripped her blouse open, revealing her pert breasts. David’s beady eyes drank it all in…and before he knew it; Edie was ripping off his sport coat and his nicely pressed Kirkland signature stripped shirt. They both sat in front of each other and the fire, panting and filled with Canadian horniness. Neither could wait any longer to fulfill their growing passion. In a heartbeat, the air was filled with a frenzy of arms and the remaining clothes being ripped off. They writhed on the ground, allowing Edie to drink in the sinuous, pasty, figure of the sex troll laying in front of her. She laughed to herself – she was staring at a top Canadian realtor in all his naked glory. How was this her life? David took that pause as hesitation and brought his thin, lizard lips up to her ample bosom. He was going to convince her that this was the right thing to do.

 As his thin lips and forked tongue found her hard nipple, he realized he wasn’t going to have to convince her at all. She was totally game for everything he wanted to offer. He licked and suckled her breasts like a possum fresh from the womb. She moaned and writhed and felt her desire grow. She was frenzied and she needed him inside of her. David, sensing her need, flipped her beneath him. He rose before her, showing her his goblin staff – which was purple and pulsed with its own need.  He spread her milky thighs and entered her. She was so wet and full of want. Her womanhood felt like the warm waters during the summer in Nova Scotia. She squealed with delight as his thin, throbbing manhood rammed into her…Edie NEEDED this. She needed this more than a finished basement and a formal dining room. His ramming brought her to life.. All that existed in the world was David and his dick.

 David grunted and thrust and Edie cried out and they came together - David’s milky seed filling her to the brim. They laid together, sweating and panting in front of the fire, satiated and happy for the first time, in a very, very long time.

TO BE CONTINUED

HGTV Erotica

I’m attempting to do some cleaning out of old files and such, and completely forgot that there was a period of time when I used to write erotic stories about HGTV hosts. I apologize for nothing.

For your reading pleasure - this short is called:

HOLMES INSPECTION: RUNNING HOT

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…. The crew had packed up their tools and gone home for the night. Despite the weather delay, and the fact that the termite damage was much worse than expected, Mike Holmes felt great about how much they had accomplished that week. Most nights after a long reno, Mike would head home, crack open an ice cold Molson, throw a couple tanks into the wash, and settle in for some Dateline and much needed rest. But tonight, well tonight, there was one last thing he needed to wrap up before he could consider this project done.

Mike pulled a bottle of Old Spice from his tool-kit, splashed it on his neck, grabbed his trusty thermography camera and went back in to do one last check in with the home-owner, Gayle.

 Gayle was plum tuckered out from all the heartache over her faulty renovation – the renovation that Mike and his team had come to correct.  She had poured her savings into trying to fix the damage, but both she and the property felt too far gone – financially and emotionally. The strain over the reno had torn apart her marriage, leaving her alone and living in shambles. Of course the help of Mike and his team would be a huge godsend as far as her living situation went – but there was one last thing that needed to be done in order to “Make it Right”….

 The backdoor was cracked, so Mike walked in, where he found Gayle on the chaise with a well deserved glass of Moscato. Simply Red’s “Holding Back The Years” quietly playing on the stereo. She didn’t notice him come in, so he stood in the doorway, watching her – eyes closed – sway her head to the sensual music. Gayle was world weary, but behind the furrowed brow and stress, he could see the woman she really was.

The floorboards gave him away as they creaked beneath his weight. Gayle, roused from her thoughts, turned to see Mike leaning in the doorway, looking every ounce the Canadian beefcake that he was. She bashfully smiled up at him. “I thought your team had already left – everything okay?”, she asked. Mike, with a glint in his eye, smiled back and said quietly, “There’s just one thing I needed to do…..to make sure everything was property handled….”. He slowly lifted up his thermography camera, wickedness dancing on his ruddy face.

 “I always like to check the heat flow – to make sure I did my job and nothing is running too hot”….He lifted the camera up and began triggering points around the room. Each reading registered the correct temp. “Just one last place to check” he said, as he pointed the camera’s sensor at the special place betwixt Gayle’s legs….the camera beeped….Mike whispered as he sauntered over to her chasm, “Oh dear…..looks like someone is running way…too…hot”.

 He stood above her. She shuddered with longing. He placed the camera on the chaise and slowly undid each clasp on his overalls. The straps fell around his waist. He slipped his white tank over his head, revealing his pink, freckled, barrel chest. Gayle sighed and fanned herself. She’d have to be made of stone not to be turned on by his strip tease. Mike giggled, slipping his overalls around his ankles, stepping out of them. He was just in his white fruit of the looms. Gayle felt as if her loins were afire. Blood rushed through her body. But Mike wasn’t done yet. He hooked his thumbs into his skivvies and slowly pulled them down, his erect member springing to life after being freed from the confines of his underwear, like a Canadian Mounty saluting Trudeau. “Oh My” Gayle whispered. Mike leaned over Gayle, hooked his meaty finger under her chin, lifting it up to him and said, “Let me make”…he kissed her deeply…”It”… his tongue slid into her open and receptive mouth…”Right”….

 Mike peeled off Gayle’s track suit like it was a layer of drywall in a historic Ontario home – he couldn’t wait to see what sort of antique wonderment laid beneath. Her body didn’t disappoint. Though she had seen better days, he knew with a little spit and elbow grease, he could bring that lady back to her prime.

 His calloused hands ran down her bare skin. She shuddered with want. He smelled of wood glue and maple syrup. He was a man through and through and it had been so terribly long since she had been taken by a real man. And take her he did. 

He caressed her breasts and kissed every square inch of her body. When he reached her pleasure zone, her body reacted by bucking like a well worn circular saw. She squealed in delight - he was driving her crazy. He kissed and licked and gave her love box the complete Mike Holmes inspection. She cried out as she came, and he looked into her eyes and said, “Now I made it right”…

BULL DURHAM'IN

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There are many things I’ve come to embrace over this last year and a half in Vermont. The ability to make Patagonia clothing fit even the most formal of Vermont events. Appreciation of the fact they put maple syrup in E V E R Y T H I N G here. Food. Drink. Motor Oil. If its in Vermont, its probably made of maple syrup. The deep, deep screams of pure terror/regisnation that bellowed from my soul as I skidded down my driveway on a daily basis during the Winter. I’ve even found myself thinking its adorable that every single citizen drives a Subaru. Live dat sensible life, Michael Gross! But the one thing I’ve really gone whole-hog on, where I’ve not just doubled down, but allowed it to become part of my cellular structure, is embracing the hornless that is being a single woman on the cusp of forty. I’m sure that would’ve happened if I had stayed in New York, or even gone back to LA, but being in isolated, rural Vermont, where the men wear flannel and build shit with their rugged hands, has basically poured fuel on my horny fire, and I AM OUT OF CONTROL, BABY! It’s like that movie BACKDRAFT, but in my vagina. Jason Gedrick getting burnt to a crisp in my loins. So, its probably no wonder, that in my horny spinster haze, I’ve sought out a pastime that merges all of my interests: beer, hot-dogs and handsome baby-boys. I’m talking about my town’s summer baseball league. I thought it was minor league, but then realized its a summer collegiate league based in New England, and honestly, thats the best thing my horny heart could imagine.

Growing up in East Texas meant that football was, literally, the only game in town that mattered. On Friday nights, all the radio stations in our area would stop playing Taylor Dane and Mark Chestnutt and would switch over to live broadcasts from the high school games. Old men would bring folding chairs to the sidelines of the pee-wee football games to scope out the kids and speculate about future prospects. Hell, I cheered at those games in elementary school! My town was like if Friday Night Lights had a baby with Footloose, but that baby ended up being extremely un-cool. So, I grew up with Football being pretty much the most important thing next to God. And I haaaaaated it. I spent every single Fall Friday night from elementary school through High school at football games. I was a member of the Blazettes, which is the drill team, in High School. That meant I wore a sequin bathing suit with a mini cowboy hat and boots, while doing high kicks while our creepy youth minister ogled me from the stands. Even taking away that bullshit, the bottom line is, I find football to be incredibly boring. I don’t get the excitement unless someone literally runs the length of the field for a touchdown. It’s a snooze. Also a snooze are the outfits - how the fuck are you supposed to sexualize men if you can’t see their damn faces?? And my disinterest in sports really runs the gamut. My grandfather used to have golf on in the background all the time, and that monotonous low volume “par 4. and he’s on the green. birdie for Phil” creepy chatter makes my skin crawl. I played indoor soccer in high school, but couldn’t tell you anything about professional players of that time. I could’ve cared less. Until college, when I developed a deep, deep appreciation for basketball. Well, not basketball in general, but more specifically, Vince Carter. Holy Moly he was/is such a babe. That awakening was when I got to thinking that, hey, maybe sports being full of beefcakes and all should be something to grab my attention. But it wasn’t until I worked at my first Hollywood job and started going to Dodger games that I realized how enjoyable objectifying men on a field could really be!

During those years working for truly the best folks in Hollywood, I went to an obscene amount of Dodger Games, thanks to their Dodger Suite. It started innocently, me accepting the invite to the suite because there was an open bar and free dodger dogs, which, I mean, who can pass that shit up when you’re a poor 26 year old? Then I started going because I realized it was an incredible way to impress dudes you’re interested in dating. I’d meet a guy in a UCB class and casually invite them to a game - then BLAMMO! Fucking best suite in the stadium. A list actors ! Dessert Cart! Tommy Lasorda coming in to say hello! The works. I was the cooooolest when I was able to take dudes on dates to the games. Eventually, I took over control of the tickets, which meant I had to go to all the home games and handle getting tickets to talent/executives/family. And amazingly, thanks to the copious amounts of free drinks and and that weekly processed meat high, I found myself getting, unintentionally, kinda into the actual, ya know, game. I enjoyed watching the bases get loaded. I liked when the innings dragged into the night. Or when there was a fly ball headed straight for some idiot jr exec’s noggin in the box next to us. But what I really found myself interested in were the Hunks - specifically Matt Kemp and Andre Ethier. I collected their bobbleheads. I googled their significant others/wives. I analyzed every aspect of their beef. And thats when I realized how brilliant baseball really is - not the sport part of it - but how they really, truly, market it to the folks looking for hunks. Why baseball is so smart, is because it really showcases the beef. The only time you don’t see baseball players faces is when they’re up to bat &/or the catcher - and in those instances, they project those handsome mugs right up on the Jumbotron for your horny, ass! And baseball uniforms are great - jaunty, breathable, and allowing us to see the two B’s: Biceps and Butts. The only quibble I have with the baseball aesthetic in general is their weird affinity for Oakley Sunglasses. Which are known to many as birth control - because they flatter NO ONE. Tom Fucking Hardy could be naked with a bottle of champagne, ready to bone down with me, and if he slapped on Oakleys, I’d be out the door, in my car and driving straight into the nearest, deepest body of water, ready to end it all. They are hideous. JNCO’s for the face. An indicator of a love for “PISS ON..” stickers and Kid Rock. But aside from that, baseball has got it figured out! And for five wonderful years, I got to bask in the glow of the hunky Dodgers faces and enjoyed every second of it. But then I changed jobs, and started working seven days a week, and then moved to Atlanta and lost track of my love of the 7th Inning Stretch and peanuts and at-bat songs. And my horniness was replaced with bad bosses and bitterness and a lack of sleep so intense that it caused my hair to fall out of my damn head. Until Vermont.

I’m not sure what actually, physiologically, shifts in your body and hormones when you’re a single woman in your late 30s, but it is INSANE. You know how people talk about Baby Fever? Thats me, but with handsome dudes. I want them ALL. I want to feast on a buffet of prime-time dick and I will not be appeased until I have it. A smorgasbord of hog. All you can eat, hunks. I can spot a hunk or a beefcake a mile away. I started listening to One Direction because of my horniness over Zayn. I once interviewed with Zac Efron and thought I’d have to consider turning down the position because of how hot he was! It’s INSANITY. Apparently you hit 35, and if you’re not married with a kid, your circuitry shorts out and all the blood in your body is replaced with pheromones. You’re literally ruining on pure horniness 24/7. Somehow your body recognizes how close you are to death AND the fact that you’ve not procreated, and so it makes you crave hunks and beefcakes and petite handsome and the works. I hit my mid-thirties and everything changed. I went from being a normal lady to some sort of sexual predator. I started reading romance novels. I would openly, and unintentionally, gawk at passing Handsomes. My horniness is totally out of control and consuming my life. And being in Vermont, with a limited selection of ANY men, let alone USDA certified beefcakes, is tough. There’s only so much googling you can do, when you really need to see free range Hunks, out in the open, in real life. So, imagine my excitement, when I stumbled upon our towns summer baseball league. I was originally drawn to the event as I’m drawn to most things here, due to equal parts boredom and amusement. I wanted to see how quaint a small town baseball game could be - and the answer is, its off the fucking charts. The stadium looks like something out of A League of Their Own. Its tiny, with red white and blue bunting everywhere. The “beer garden” is actually just a cooler, with a little table and the local bartender flipping a sign with the score on it each game. The mascot is….incredible. Its a fucking mangey looking Woodchuck named Skip, with creepy Graves Disease eyes, and who is absolutely terrifying. And each game during a break in the innings, he dons rollerblades (!!!) and skates behind a golf cart that has been modified to look like a little baseball hat. Kids walk around selling raffle tickets, and most of the time you can get away with not even paying the entrance fee. And then there are the nights when they do fireworks - which are what seem to be Roman candles launched from the outfield, freaking out unsuspecting patrons of the “beer garden”. It’s incredible. It’s hysterical. It’s quaint. And its become my favorite thing during the Vermont summers. Due to the things listed above, and also because, and this is the important part, all the players are all 20 year old college baby boys who are F. I. N. E.

Tell me these goblin Woodchucks aren’t gacked out of their critter minds on New England smack.

Tell me these goblin Woodchucks aren’t gacked out of their critter minds on New England smack.

Yes, I should be ashamed. I should realize that ogling kids who are young enough to potentially be my children (had my late teens/early 20s been a bit more exciting). I should be, but I’m not. Because I’m a red-blooded lady who is sliding closer to death each day and apparently the only things giving me joy are beefcakes and realizing that you can stream the PBS version of Anne of Green Gables online now. So I do what any lady who realizes she needs to feast her eyes upon prime-time D would do, I go to these baseball games. My goal is to become the Susan Sarandon of Central Vermont. Just scooping up these Lil Hunks and teaching them shit - what I will teach them has yet to be discovered. I’d like to say I’ll teach them important stuff about chasing your joy and not letting yourself work for bad men, but honestly, it’ll probably just be me bitching about how much I have to shovel in the Winter and then introducing these baby beefs to bad 70s Sci-Fi. Nothing sets the mood for some Cougar action more than forcing a Petite Handsome into watching multiple episodes of Buck Rogers: Man of the 25th Century. But this is my life now, a baseball aficionado due to my love of Hunks. I figure there are worse things I could get myself into here in Central Vermont - opioids, specifically. Scoping out hot ass seems like a much safer, albeit less exciting, route. The only issue is, I’m apparently not the only lady who has these aspirations. I witnessed another single lady around my age on some sort of date with one of the baby beefs, and I’ll be honest, I was jealous - she was putting into action what I’ve only hoped for - but I also have to remember there are around 40 of those dudes, so there’s more than enough hog to go around for us ladies. So, tonight I’ll do what I do most night the team is in town, I’ll head over to the rec field, take a seat on one of the park benches in the “beer garden”, and objectify some dudes while cackling like a mad woman at the mangey Woodchuck rollerblading around the area. I guess this is my version of living my best “39 in Central Vermont” life.







Living out my Teenage Nightmares

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Recently, while waiting for the doctor to see me, I read that New York Times article decreeing Gen X a mess. The timing of that article could not have been more fitting. Because it truly feels like I’m regressing at a Benjamin Button pace. Somewhere along the line, I veered off course, my car caught on fire, then took another sharp turn, went careening down a cliff, aflame, with me screaming inside, like something out of a 70s action movie. But instead of blowing up and incinerating me on the spot, it landed in a pit of my own making, slowly burning me alive like Paul Walker (RIP), surrounded by all the bad decisions in my life. Every student loan payment I ignored, everything I put off until tomorrow, all the indecision that rendered me inert, all the self-imposed hibernation, the reminders of my own stupidity and inability to behave like an adult, have come back to be the kindling to the fire that is currently consuming me. I’m a hot garbage mess that feels like a teenager again. Not a teenager insofar that I’ve got the metabolism of a God and my entire life, free of blemishes, in front of me. Nah, girl, I mean teenager as in living a waking nightmare with every day filled to the brim with shame, embarrassment and terrible decisions. I’m spending all my free time loathing myself, and having to relearn all those life-lessons that didn’t stick the first go around. I thought the whole thing with life was that you grew smarter as you got older. Like, thats the payoff? If not smarter, at least wiser? Well thats not the case with me. I certainly don’t feel like that wise old owl snarfing down a tootsie pop, sassing the youth, while wearing his cap and gown. Nope. I’m back to 13 year old me, all while trapped in the body of an almost 40 year old bitter woman who still enjoys the fresh, unisex scent of CK ONE. Woof.

See, Teen Morgan was a lot of things. She was equal parts outgoing and incredibly strange. She was neurotic. Mooney. Hyperaware that she was different. Aside from just being weird in general, I also went through an existential crisis/depression at the tail end of elementary school. A situation which required a lot of therapy. There were different therapists. I had a school therapist. That one was just some Baptist lady doing counseling in her free time, so that she could use those sessions as a way to spread the word of the Lord. She also used a dolphin puppet named Duso to help her drive home any life lessons. It was awful. Then there were the other therapists, trying to calm me down and pin all of my issues on my parents divorce. The adults in my life needed the divorce to be “the thing” that lead me down this path of mental destruction. If it wasn’t the divorce then I was just questioning the world and that would not do! Because If you’re not already aware, adults in the Bible Belt tend to be real freaked out by children who question the nature of reality/eternity/our souls purpose, at a time when they should be pouring over pics of Corey Haim in Tiger Beat. There is nothing a Southern Baptist dislikes more than someone questioning God. Well, actually, they probably dislike gays, women, free choice, and people of color more than that, but depressed children are up there on the list, thats for sure! And so, while my friends were trading their Barbie’s for Cover Girl frosted eyeshadow, I was pretending to be “normal”. Because telling my friends what I was going through wasn’t an option, I really didn’t want to add social pariah to the long list of ailments, I decided that assimilation was the only course of action. So, I sought out advice from the experts. Experts being teen entertainment sources. For social guidance, I chose cinema as my spirit guide. SINGLES shaped what I expected my future to become, and as dark as that is, it aint far off from my reality. I’m a more highly functioning, less talented Cliff! PRETTY IN PINK reinforced how I felt socioeconomically in a town where all my friends were rich, coupled with my inability to get a crush on someone that knew I actually existed. I lived my life like Andi before Blaine came groveling back to her at the Prom. For only child stuff, I read FLOWERS IN THE ATTIC. Not that it taught me anything (other than not eating donuts given to me from my gamma), but it reinforced my opinion that people with siblings have some real fucked up dynamics! And while most of the shit in my life was hot garbage, at least I wasn’t fucking my brother, ya know? And then for the real nitty gritty - the specifics on fashion, culture and most importantly, secret girl health stuff, I turned to the Mt. Everest of “Teen Truth” - tween magazines. Specifically SEVENTEEN, YM and, if I was able to find it in my neck of NE Texas, SASSY. These magazines provided me with all the information I needed on how to present as a “normal", with the added bonus of allowing me to see what life was like outside of the pine curtain of NE Texas. And that was very important given my hometown took off MTV, deeming it too Satanic. I’m not kidding when I say the Baptists ran our town less a like fun, less jazzy, FOOTLOOSE. ,

The B-I-B-L-E, yes thats the book for me!

The B-I-B-L-E, yes thats the book for me!

YM and Seventeen allowed me to get the answers I needed in a neat and tidy way. I didn’t have to out my inner turmoil to my mom, or my friends, or my therapist. Instead, I opened the pages to those glorious magazines, and was given the blueprint as to how I was supposed to behave as a red-blooded Gen X teen. Wanna know what color of Docs would make all the grunge boys swoon? Oxblood, baby. Wanna know what sort of face wash to use to clear up my burgeoning pimples? It’s clean, clear and under control, girl. What to do with your hands when a boy kissed you? Who fucking knows, but you probably shouldn’t keep them rigid at your side like a nightmare Nutcracker, the way I did when I kissed Matt Bean next to his creepy Trans Am. But those geniuses at the mags knew EVERYTHING. All the shit I couldn’t figure out because I was too busy worrying over the fate of my soul due to past life behavior. But what I really took as the word of fucking God, the gold standard of advice, were the articles about girl health. It should also be noted, that at this time I was also operating as a low functioning hypochondriac. Which was super cool and very chill and I would absolutely recommend being a straight weirdo who was clinically depressed AND worried about death 24/7 by age 13. I can’t imagine why I was such a late bloomer since I was such a hip chick! Regardless, I needed to get my medical fix, and since I had exhausted my doctor, and I didn’t have the sort of relationship with my mom that allowed me to have “those” types of conversations, I felt it was best to leave any “girl questions” to the experts at the mags. I guess I assumed all the questions sent into the magazines, from scared, weird girls like me, went to some desk and were opened thoughtfully, one by one, by a white-coated Doctor who’s life passion was to make sure people all over the world had their very important questions answered. Now that I think about it, I bet it was just some rich girl on a summer internship from Smith fielding those super personal notes. Reponses written in between binging Zima’s on the front stoop of someone’s parents brownstone in the Brooklyn Heights. Whatever the case, I took what those magazines said as the absolute facts. When one of them told me a horror story that pre-ejaculate could get you pregnant by like, traveling into your vagina due to a combo of dry humping and underwear shifting, like a hideous game of Oregon trail, with the pre-cum fording the river into your vag, and all the oxen inexpliably surviving and getting your ass pregnant, I BELIEVED THAT THEN, AND HONEST TO GOD, I PROBABLY STILL BELIEVE IT NOW. I will never, not think about that when fooling around with someone. The magazines were really into scaring you straight as far as pregnancy went, probably because they knew a lot of kids only had those articles as their sex-ed. The other thing they drove home was period safety. And specifically Toxic Shock Syndrome. Every month there was some terrifying story about a girl who left her tampon in, got toxic shock AND DIED. And thats not a romantic death. Thats period death! And period death, as every teen knows, is awful and embarrassing and I worried every month about getting TSS. I worried about tampon strength and time said tampon was left inside me. I worried about inserting a tampon on top of another tampon, which was deemed a fate worse than death. And all of those articles and health tips have stuck with me through the teen years, into my twenties, and now late thirties. Which is why I found it so ironic to be reading the article about GEN X being a bunch of directionless hot garbage monsters, while sitting in the Planned Parenthood waiting room because I had inadvertently stuck one tampon in on top of another and forgot about it….I was living a YM “It happened to me” letter to the editor. And I was losing my fucking shit.

I will spare you the nitty gritty, but let me tell you, having a tampon left inside of you for the better part of a month at age 39, with 25 years of tampon use and fear of TSS drilled into you by those aforementioned magazines, is fate far fucking worse than having it happen at age 15. Aside from general, overwhelming mortification, I also had to endure eight tries with a speculum to get to the rogue tampon freed, to no avail. Eventually, after about a half hour of trying to pull Baby Jessica from my well, the doctor had to throw decorum aside and use her hands to fish that fucker out of the sideways position it had taken. A position where it was blocking my cervix and had set up a nightmare pop-up shop. I didn’t give a shit what it felt like, because when I realized I was running a low grade fever, I just knew the next stop was TSS and PERIOD DEATH. And Jesus Christ, with everything that has happened, Period Death was a bridge too far. So I didnt care the method, I just wanted that fucker out by any means necessary. The examination table and area surrounding looked like the set of a SAW movie. By the time the doctor had sent that thing back to Hell from whence it came, we had both seen things that I never, ever, want to think of again. If ever witness anything like that again, I’ll off myself right then and there. I don’t give a shit if its inside a Barnes and Noble, in line at Panera, at children’s dance recital, if I see or smell that again, I’m blowing my brains out immediately. And when it was all done, with my voice hoarse from saying, “Oh my god, I’m so sorry” over and over again, the doctor, who was my age, and I shared a laugh about how this truly was my teen nightmare come to life. And how, despite everything being fine, no TSS, no weird stuff (other than a tampon having been lodged in my cervix), this fucked me up way more than my bionic arm surgery, or second bout of pneumonia that hit a few weeks ago and cause me to chip a tooth from coughing so hard, did. Me having to live out my worst teen nightmare feels like insult to injury at this point.

Because, the reality is, this isn’t the only thing I’ve dealt recently with that feels very “High School”. I’ve gotten terrible crushes on men who definitely didn’t dig me back. I’ve accidentally face-timed a man via the Instagram app, not realizing that was possible, and in my panic, threw my phone across the room while screaming. I’ve had bouts of hating myself and being so insecure about my looks that I’ve refused to be in photos for over two years. I keep thinking its regression, but maybe I actually never grew up in the first place? Maybe I am a directionless Get X monster, and having to reliving all these scenarios, at different points in my life, is the punishment for not behaving like an adult? Maybe being stuck back in the worst part of my teenage years, replaying the same drama and woes and worries, as BEFORE SUNRISE quitely plays in the background, is my version of Purgatory? I dunno. All I know is that this year is only six months in, and I’m terrified to see how the rest pans out for me. I’m either going to win the lottery or be swallowed by a sink-hole. I dont think theres an in-between for me. So, I guess I’ll just keep my seatbelt fastened, douse myself in CK One, blast The Cranberries, and strap in for the rest of this fucking trip.

Vermont Is Trying to Kill Me


Me after this Winter.

Me after this Winter.

Vermont is trying to kill me.

I wish I were kidding, but it doesn’t take Jessica Fletcher to realize that Vermont has it out for me and will stop at nothing to have me dead. And when I say “kill me”, I mean actively kill me dead. Vermont has come to play and I’m just out here trying to survive, man.

First it was the pneumonia. Something, despite all the years with my garbage lungs/body, I had been able to avoid. Even while living in NYC, a place thats basically the inside of a grease trap filled to the brim with botulism, somehow, even there, I managed to be healthier. I now live in the damn land of milk and honey, er syrup, and I’m fucking trashed. Its a wild-ass ride, life. Obviously the pneumonia was a bummer, but I figured this was my “big shitty thing for this half of 2019”. Then, like, two weeks after that, death comes a-knockin’ again.

It was a normal Monday morning, with me just trying to leave the cozy confines of my house in order to go to work, a place where things have been very stressful and decidedly not cozy, when things took a bit of a turn. See, in my attempt to walk down the staircase, I forgot I was wearing socks and that the stairs are steep, old and slick, and I ended up very quickly losing my balance and falling violently down onto the staircase. Where Linus, my trusty little pup, had unfortunately positioned himself below me. My ass hit Linus’s body hard, wedging him between my body and the staircase. I started screaming in fear that I killed him. Linus was squealing, squished below me. And Winnie was running in circles, freaking the fuck OUT about all the chaos around her. Somewhere between the first and third stair, Linus, got himself free and shot away from me, yelping. I spent the remainder of the fall, which lasted for another 4 steps, screaming, “I’M SORRY! I’M SORRY! I’M SORRY!” over and over. It was a legitimately awful and traumatic experience. Thank GOD he was ok, but I have never wished for Xanax more than when I had to drag my crumpled body over to peer under the couch where he was hiding, to see if he was hurt. Because if he had been seriously hurt, it would’ve been due to my ASS. Think about that - my ass. There’s no way to get around that. I would have killed my dog with my fat ass and that is probably the worst way you can accidentally kill something. Imagine carrying the fact that you squished your beloved pet to death with your giant, killing machine, ass! Even just considering that outcome has me wanting to call a therapist. But, he was ok, albeit freaked out and very leery of me, but ok. So after confirming he was ok, I did what any 39 year old who had almost crushed their dog to death would do, I curled up in a ball, tried to ignore the pain shooting through my back and ass, and screamed into the rug to no-one/myself that I “hated everything”, before having to pry myself off the floor and limp out to the fucking driveway. The rest of the week seemed to follow that days lead, which is just rude. A few days later, a pipe in the ceiling above the bar at work had a leak. And not just any leak, nah, it showered us with pure, rusty, old, urine from the public bathrooms in the upper levels of the building. True Story. Having a golden shower rain down upon me really should’ve been the indicator that something was amiss. That I had definitely angered the wrong Gypsy, and whatever hex had been placed upon me had definitely been activated. Little did I know all that was just the amuse-bouche to this Winter’s shit-feast. A horn-of-plenty’s worth of absolute fucking nonsense.

The next Monday morning, I was already in a funk. I guess narrowly avoiding killing your dog with your butt, and having a stressful work week on top of getting a piss shower, of unknown piss from unknown people, can do that to you, huh? And I know I was in a grumpy mood because I broke out behavior from my past life as an assistant - I spent a solid 20 minutes of my morning looking up appropriate grumpy gifs to send as responses to anyone dealing with me that day. Its an important coping skillset I honed after years of bad jobs and bad days. So, after downloading all the gifs that I thought would encapsulate my feelings for the day (boy was I wrong), I headed down my hill and towards work. Now, the one thing I (and my coworkers) struggle with during the winter months is parking. Our establishment only has one parking spot and its reserved for the owner. Parking in our town is very limited, and free parking is a crap-shoot depending on when you arrive downtown. Before 7am? You’re good. 7 am and after? Who knows. In summer you have tons more leeway. The weather is nice. The roads are safe. A little walk in some fresh air can do you good! In the Winter? The air, if you’ve got busted lungs, even for a few block walk, will trigger an asthma episode. And the ice/snow create a “Storming the beaches of Normandy” scenario. You may make it ashore, but at what cost, soldier? Most of the time, I just save myself the trouble and park at a meter nearby. This is a problem for two reasons: one, I’m paying upwards of $14.00 a day to the meters, and two, I’ve got beef with one of the meter maids. One meter maid is lovely. She’s a spunky, middle-aged lady who wears blue eyeliner and is in a perpetually sunny mood. She’s chipper, she’s sweet, and I feel like makes the town a brighter place. The other meter maid is her polar opposite. She’s a fucking grouchy-ass woman who does * clap * not * clap * like * clap * me * clap. The first time I met her is when she booted my car last spring for unpaid parking tickets. Only, I had paid them online. There were no outstanding tickets. So I tell her there has been a mistake and show her the electronic confirmation numbers, to which she responded by screaming at me that I was lying and needed to take it up with city hall. Actually screamed, by the way. So I rush down to city hall, only to be greeted by some fucking backwoods Newhart shit. I get into a “who’s on first” back and forth with the woman in charge, who claims they don’t have on online payment system. I keep asking, well then who is operating your website because there are payment functions, and the woman keeps saying thats not the case. All the while I’m trying to pull up the website on my phone, but of course the cell service in Vermont is on par with a developing nation after a typhoon, so nothing would load. FINALLY after 10 min of arguing, she angrily gets up and walks out the door. Another five minutes pass and she comes back and says, “oh, you did pay. We just didn’t get the information from the people who process the payments”….I said, so, you understand that you do have online payment options? The grouchy “Larry Daryl and Daryl” woman responds with pursed lips, narrowed eyes and a “mmmmm”. Like a shitty, New England Slingblade. Reader I almost burnt the entire city to the ground at that very moment. The fact I didn’t shows incredible restraint on my part, if you ask me. So after all that, I have to walk back to my car to show ol’ Grumplestiltskin the paperwork so she can remove the boot, and boy that did not make her happy. I think me calling them on their mistake caused the parking department to pencil me in as EVIL RESIDENT #1. Since that experience, I’ve gotten another boot on my car, and been yelled at by the meter troll multiple times - like, actual yelling, not just curt tones. And this is a quiet town. Do you know how embarrassing and uncomfortable it is to have a little angry goblin hollering at you in the middle of the road? Its a lot to process! She’s my local nemesis. And she works Mondays. So on this specific Monday, grumpy mood and all, I knew that parking on the street would lead to another 10 bucks and a ticket/confrontation with the parking ghoul. So, I begrudgingly went a few blocks away to the free parking area. And, I immediately knew it was a bad idea. Bad because it was cold as fuck and my asthma immediately kicked up, and bad because there was ice on every single surface. Road. Sidewalks. Nothing was safe. In fact, the plows had been through and kicked up giant ice chunks that rendered most of the spots unparkable. But I ventured forward! And after finding a spot and beginning the march towards work, it was clear that I basically had to do a long-program ice-skating routine in order to make it to my destination. And somedays you’re fucking Oksana Baiul, ice- princess-ing your way to gold, and other days you’re Nancy Kerrigan getting your fucking leg whacked by a low-rent, white-trash hitman, screaming “WHHHHY” into the void. You can imagine which was to be my destiny that fateful morning, can’t you? Y’all I was really trying to be careful, but it was ice and I’m a klutz. And then it happened.

Cute candid of me on the sidewalk after shattering my wrist.

Cute candid of me on the sidewalk after shattering my wrist.

I didn’t just slip. No, sir. I did it up right. I fell violently sideways onto the icy sidewalk, throwing my left hand down to buffer myself/try not to clock my head on the pavement/try to save the laptop I was carrying a bag on that shoulder, and in the process shattered the fuck out of my wrist. Do you know the sound a corn-cob makes if you break it in two? That was the sound my bone made. I’ve always wondered if I would know if I broke a bone - like, obviously, if the bone is sticking through the flesh, yeah, but in general would I be aware of how bad a break was when it happened? Would I immediately know, “oh thats definitely broken”? I assumed not. The answer though, is a resounding, yeah. I mean, no question. I sat up on the pavement and my left wrist/arm was immediately equal parts numb and throbbing and limp. I let out the most feral, most guttural moan/scream of my life. It was, not a good look. I sat trying to get my bearings, while moaning, “fuck, fuck, fuck” over and over again for at least a solid minute. I was already in a terrible mood, and this was truly the icing on the strawberry shit-cake. And to make it all worse, I couldn’t get up. I mean, I wanted to get up, but between my arm, being splayed out on the ice, and trying to retrieve all the shit that went flying when I fell, I was in a bit of a pickle. It was 7am, on what I thought was an empty street, and I coudln’t figure out how to fucking stand up without falling again. So, I did what anyone in shock and lacking pride would do, I started scooting. I scooted on my ass, using my feet as little engines, through the ice, down the block, with my limp arm dragging beside me, and the good arm dragging my purse and laptop. It was about ten scoots in, that I noticed something out of my peripheral. A person standing outside the library, across the street from me, staring at me, mouth agape in wonder. And in that moment I snapped and screamed, “WHAT ARE YOU FUCKING LOOKING AT??” knowing damn well what they were looking at: They were looking at a woman who had “eat pray loved” herself into this fucking maple syrup nightmare. A woman who had somehow deviated from her Nancy Meyers plot line into Stephen King’s MISERY. Point: Vermont.

Once I scooted far enough, I was able to use my good arm to pull myself up with the help of a parking meter (irony), and then hobble the two and a half blocks into work, moaning the entire way. I was like Hansel and Gretel, only instead of leaving breadcrumbs to mark my path, I left little bits of my pride, and a trail of moans. Shortly after making it into work, a kindly coworker drove me to the ER. And, after a number of X-Rays, being forced to twist and contort my wrist, sans any sort of pain medication, the Doctors confirmed what we already knew, that I had badly shattered my wrist, with the bonus information at it would require immediate surgery. Oddly by that point, five hours in the ER, fielding calls and texts from work, I realized that the broken wrist/surgery wasn’t the worst thing I’d go through that day. No, the scooting and moaning and shattered wrists were just part of it. Even the fact that this all happened during a lapse in insurance, which of fucking course it did, wasn’t the worst. Nope, the worst part was having to field off well intentioned, but uncomfortable, requests to help me. There were a select group of people who wanted me to need their help like I was Shelby from Steel Magnolias. Shelby while she was in the diabetic coma after the kidney transplant failed, which we knew it would after she got that reactionary haircut. Y’all, that was a “I’m about to die, might as well do something bold” haircut. Anyway, news moves fast in a small town. So fast that, I shit you not, the man who delivers maple syrup to our establishment, sent me a get well text while I was still in the fucking ER. While I was also in the ER, I had someone come by and get legitimately angry with me because I wasn’t asking for, what they felt, was the appropriate amount of help. Instead of listening to me, an adult woman of almost 40, who has lived alone for twenty years and who has SEEN SOME SHIT, they decided to make it about them. And they decided it was pride clouding my judgment. And my independence was a character flaw. And when I politely declined some of the help they offered, help I truly didn’t need at that moment and felt uncomfortable with, they dramatically began crying and told me that I needed to listen to them. And they got right up close to me on the gurney, while angrily crying, and said that being around me is exhausting because I refuse to ask for help. Reminder that I was on hour 5 in the ER sans pain meds at this point, just trying to get through that shitshow with minimal stress. So I responded the only way I knew how, with a bemused, “I’m sorry?”. Because thats a fucking insane thing to say to someone. But such is life in a small town.

The “Spinster Delay” allowed me to be released from the hospital for a day so I could get my affairs in order and make sure my pups were taken care of while I was getting my Luke Skywalker wrist. Score one for the single ladies. On the morning of the surgery, a friend from work drove me to the hospital. While sitting in the waiting room waiting to be admitted, we joked about where my spirit would haunt if I happened to die during surgery. Because I have to admit, I was a tad nervous. Not of surgery, but of where I was having surgery. I’ve been really lucky to have had amazing care whenever shit has gone sideways. I have a bone tumor in my hip - I’m fine - but its a whole thing, and during the process of figuring out what was going on, I somehow ended up with one of the best orthopedic surgeons in California. No joke - it was me and a bunch of athletes and celebrities. I talked to Ryan O’Neal in the waiting room once! But, I’m not used to a rural hospital. One that, thankfully I didn’t learn until after, used to have a very bad reputation for killing folks. And of course my pneumonia decided to rear its ugly head again directly before all of this nonsense. I was not looking forward to going under with busted lungs. No, sir. My biggest fear was, if I died in that Central Vermont Medical Center - would my body be forced to haunt that area? Or do you get a choice? Because If you’re only allowed a specific area, I’m assuming the Hosptial, given its track record, is full-up on ghosts, so the next closest establishment is a “mall” that is one of the most depressing places I’ve ever been. And I’ve been to Eastern Europe. All I could think of was haunting that run-down, empty rural mall for eternity - just floating up and down the halls, whining about how being a ghost sucks and trying to remind the customers about the BOGO sale at Bath and Bodyworks and doing my loops by the weird kiosk that only sells flannel wolf blankets and dreamcatchers. Occasionally pointing a lost looking soul towards the JC PENNY, depressed for both of us. That future seemed just bleak enough to be a real possibility, and therefore activated my anxiety. Luckily though, the pneumonia was able to be kept at bay for surgery, albeit with some creative fixes, and after a few hours, I came out of it all and was back home, propped up, and tending to my new bionic wrist. I’m now a very cranky, cusp of middle-age, cyborg!

Its been a few weeks since my surgery. I upgraded from the surgical splint to a hard cast. I’ve had this super fun thing happen where my incision (which goes from my palm down my wrist) feels as if its on fire for no reason. Which is awesome. And sure there have been some sleepless nights, and a lot of discomfort, and I legit sobbed when the stitches were taken out, but I made it through solo. Like I was most comfortable doing. And did it without taking the OxyCodone the doctor prescribed. Ya girl is already fighting an uphill battle in life, and the last thing I need is a debilitating opioid addiction on top of that, ya know? Could you imagine? Woof. So, here I am, typing with one hand and icing the other, while my two trusty pups keep me company. They’ve been such sweet companions these past few weeks - I think they even know Vermont is out to get me and are doing their best to protect me. Even if I almost ass-murdered Linus. And the thing is, in the grand scheme of everything, this Winter of bullshit is nothing. It’s a blip on the radar. I can complain about all the bad shit in my life and know, truly know, that everything will be ok, and that this move to Vermont, while proving to be a real son of a bitch, is/was the right thing to do. I can also say that I think this Nancy Meyers movie i’ve created for myself has taken a bit of a dark turn. The plot points have gotten a little more intense, and there has been a shocking, SHOCKING, lack of Sam Shephard-esque dong for my liking. I was looking for Baby Boom, and its turned into Somethings Gotta Give meets SAW. Lets lighten shit up, ok, the sooner the better. Karmically speaking, something truly has to give.

But the grass is going to be sprouting up soon. And the trees will be budding. And thats when I’m expecting my karmic payback for this shit. Thats when I’m preparing for my windfall. And what I’m preparing for is to be showered in Patagonia-clad fuck-daddy dick, and piles, and piles of money. Diving into a pool of them both, Scrooge McDuck style, and then retreating to my Nancy Myers inspired kitchen for a glass of wine and a bowl of pasta that mysteriously never allows you to gain weight. And as I lift the glass of Pinot Noir to my lips, I’ll glance down and see a faint outline of the scar on my wrist, the one hiding the metal plate and screws they implanted on my that fateful Winter day. And I’ll chuckle quietly to myself, and Sam, (that will be my Vermont boyfriends name) will look up from the Washington Post, and ask whats so funny? And I’ll say, “oh, I was just remembering that one Winter when Vermont tried to kill me” and we’ll both laugh and laugh, because its true, and also because I made it through, like I knew I would. And then we'll bang on the handsomely styled kitchen island, because I deserve that too, ya know? And All of this will be exactly as it should be, a fucked up chapter in a weird time in my life, that will lead to something better. As long as I stay true to myself and invest in a very expensive insurance policy.

So try your best, Vermont. I have seen some shit, you flannel clad, green-mountain motherfucker. I'm not going anywhere. I survived worse than this on any given day at my old jobs. I am ready for your nonsense. I survived Harvey. I survived East Texas and my childhood and a stint working at the Sara Lee snack cake factory. I will not fall victim to your Hallmark Channel-ass. I’m not going anywhere, fuck-face.



A Touch of the Black Lung: A Mid-Winters Tale

Cute pic of me totally thriving this Winter! xo

Cute pic of me totally thriving this Winter! xo

I believe that most women who are single and of a certain age are, like me, are for the most part, accustomed to being alone. Its not that we don’t want to have a partner, someone to go through the ups and downs of this wacky world with, its just that because God loves us less, and decided that we’re unworthy of regular bone sessions and unconditional love and support because we’re garbage people, we’ve become conditioned to take care of shit by ourselves. We’re the ones who drag the trash through knee deep snow drifts. We buy the groceries. Rush our pets to the vet in the middle of the night and handle those nightmares solo. We take the car to the repair shop and figure out how to get home in a rural area without a working vehicle. When the basement overflows with sewage, spewing from every pipe and causing you to have to buy 11 boxes of FRESH STEP kitty litter in order to soak it all up, we’ll we’re the monsters who go and purchase that. WE. HAVE. TO. HANDLE. OUR. OWN. SHIT. Literally. And most of the time, even If I lament my singleness to no end, I do know that, unless the right person comes around, I’m ok-ish with my reality. Because while my reality contains a lot of shit I don’t enjoy, it also means that I have my house and my stuff to myself. Which means I can do what I want most of the time. For example I can go to bed at 8pm, slathered in oils and potions hoping to ward off gravity and age, and awake at 4am to view Center Stage while making stress crafts. Now that I think about it, that could be why I’m single, but still! Imagine trying to do that with some hunk wanting to ravish you and shower you with love all the time? What a fucking buzzkill!! And look, its not a perfect life by any means, but I deal most of the time. Until I don’t. There are two instances that cause me to break the zen-like nature I’ve crafted while being an isolated, spinster. These are times when I well and truly lose my shit and it causes me to scream to the Gods, and curse them to the depths of Hell for never sending me a strapping carpenter, or Middleburry Professor who looks like Secretary-era James Spader. And those times are when I have to shovel snow or when I’m legitimately sick. Those two things break me in ways its hard to verbalize. And up to this point this winter, it’s been very, very heavy on the snow and the curses to the gods for making me shovel. Until now. Now I’ve gotten the double whammy. Insult, meet injury.

I think its actually quite surprising that I don’t get sick more often, to be honest. I’m not what you call a “healthy” person. Up until this year, I slept about 4 hours a night and my main dietary staple was a bottle of wine with a side helping of stress and repressed anger. Sure I boxed, but I don’t think anyone thought it was healthy to punch nonstop for two hours, fueled by rage. What I’m saying is, I’m amazed I’m actually still alive. Not only alive but somehow also with a functional immune system. Science! With that said, the thing that tends to remind me of what a sack of garbage I actually am are my lungs. I had asthma as a kid and into my teens, but it wasn’t debilitating by any means. And irritation, but tolerable. My grandmothers however both had horrible, horrible asthma and I watched in terror from afar, thinking of how awful it was seeing them gasp and wheeze and spend stints in the hospital, thanking god that I would never have to deal with that nightmare. HAHA. Jokes on my ass. A few years ago, my asthma came back with a vengeance. I went from not really worrying about it to sleeping next to a rescue inhaler and trying life hacks to, ya know, breathe. It became awful and exasperated by stress. Which, if there’s anything I’ve had in the past decade is stress. But even with the lung issue, for the most part I’m able to miss out on the cold and flu season. I never get stomach bugs, I’m not sure what my intestines are made of, but i’m pretty sure its that mercury shapeshifting indestructible metal shit that the Terminators foe melted into during T2, because I’m immune to all that nonsense. Sure I’ll get a head cold from time to time, and I’m always suffering from allergies, but an actual flu? Rare. Once every few years. Which is awesome. But I guess that also means when I do get sick, I get sick big. I go for the gold! And go for the gold I apparently did this year.

It started recently with my asthma getting worse at night - and before I knew it I had gone through a brand spanking new rescue inhaler with 200 glorious, lung opening puffs, gone in less than two weeks. That is…not good. At all. I would get winded and need to take a puff after walking from my car into work. I walked around the dining room filling coffee and would be winded so bad that I’d have to take a puff. Then the cough arrived. Now, this is not my first rodeo with a cough that makes people wildly uncomfortable. The last time my asthma got very bad, I was between working for Harvey and my last boss, and had taken an interim position with a billionaire on the Upper East Side of NYC. Like, an actual, real deal very billionaire-y, billionaire. He looked and behaved like Daddy Warbucks, but I actually didn’t mind him so much. I knew his daughter from a former job and wasn’t scared of his whole screamy-schtick. My coworkers however, were terrifying. The woooooorst. I worked in a bullpen with seven SEVEN 7!! other ladies - all assistants doing the same thing for the same man and trying to sabotage the others. It was chaotic, and remarkably, the first time I had been bullied by coworkers in a way that made me loathe going into work. Sometimes I would just sit on the subway and let it take me all the way from Brooklyn to the Bronx, before riding it all the way back, and then having to force myself to get off at the stop that would lead me to the office. As my stress ramped up, so did my asthma, and the cough that came with it. The cough was/is not really comforting to hear. Its like if an elderly woman who had been smoking since the age of nine and worked in a coal-mine since birth, caught tuberculosis. It’s unnerving, and I’m sure it was very annoying to listen to while you were busy trying to plot schemes against coworkers. It really put a damper on their evilness. But, because we worked in close quarters, I was told the sound of my cough was problematic and was sent to our in-house doctor (the perks of being a billionaire). The doctor was also concerned and convinced I had pneumonia and set me up with the best pulmonologist in the city. The appointment was a week later, but before I could go, I ended up in the ER. You know how I mentioned that being single means you have to deal with shit solo? Well in this case it meant I had to fucking uber myself to and from the ER and pharmacy in Brooklyn. There’s nothing like having a party Uber pick you up at 3am on a Saturday night, with house music blasting, as it scurries you to the closest hospital. I seriously considered ducking and rolling out of the car, allowing myself to die on the street, rather than the last thing I heard before being ushered into the underworld being some hideous house music with the smell of busted air fresheners wafting through the Kia Sorento. The upside was that after a few breathing treatments and heavy meds, I was better regulated and it wasn’t more serious. But you know what? No one came to fucking check on me after that. To make sure I was alive. I had to keep myself alive!!! What the fuck, ya know? So, this ain’t my first rodeo with black lung. So, when my asthma kicked up this time, I knew what to expect. Until the cough that I was used to also took on a seal-barking quality that added a level of awful to the sound that even made me shudder. It was bad enough that I chipped a tooth coughing and then barfed from gaging for good measure. Come and get me, boys! * wink * So, I spent two nights fitfully googling “whooping cough” symptoms, and then recording myself and sending videos of the sound of my cough to my wonderful friend Erin so she could give me some advice. And her advice was go to the fucking ER. I laughed it off. I had been down this road before. Everything was going to be fine. Until I coughed so hard that my heart started fluttering and I almost passed out. It was then that I realized, if I did die, who the fuck would find me? Maybe my coworkers if I didn’t show up to work. But honestly, I need to do a deep clean on my house first and I don’t want to die while its messy and have people tromping around through all of my bullshit. I need to clean before my time comes. So, the next day I begrudgingly went to the urgent care. While having a coughing fit in the waiting room, three (3!!) people got up and retrieved complementary masks from the receptionist. It was mortifying. The doctor could hear me outside and fast tracked the process. This time I did have pneumonia. Baby pneumonia. But pneumonia all the same. I was given prednisone, which I hate and antibiotics and told to take it easy.

And this is where I will totally cop to turning into a big ol baby. When I get sick, like sick, sick, and not some trifling cold, that is the moment that all my “eh this is my lot in life, I’m fine with being alone” bullshit goes straight out the window and I scream and curse the gods and wallow in my misery. You know why? It’s not because people won’t help you, its that you’re going to have to ask. And I do not want to ask. Because asking means you work yourself with the whole process - the worrying you’re overstepping, worrying you’re asking too much, worrying you’re asking too little, worrying you’re asking at all. And I loathe that. I loathe having to ask someone, when I already feel like hot garbage, to do me a favor. I want to be sick and have my medicine and some soup and someone to make sure the dogs are fed and ok while I sleep it off. And I don’t have that. I don’t have anyone who is obligated to just be nice to me without me having to ask for it. Without me having to go through my rolodex to figure out who’s schedule might align at the right time to do me a favor and who I can ask and not feel like its going to be “a thing”. But being single means you don’t have that option. And when you’re feeling crummy and low and you just want to fucking sleep, the last thing you want to do is deal with all the logistical and emotional shit that goes with needing help. So, you suck it up and if there’s soup there, then you’re good and if not, if you’re like me, you scrounge around and find top ramen and try not to think about what a pathetic sight you are. An almost 40 year old woman eating top ramen out of a mixing bowl because you don’t have the energy to do dishes, hacking away the best years of your life, while you look outside and realize thanks to the fresh three inches of snow outside you’re going to have to shovel, busted lungs and all, because there’s no one else to fucking do it for you. Yet again. And honestly, isn’t the biggest perk of having a partner being able to have someone to support you in times of need? Like, isn’t the whole point of being in a partnership having that person who will be there through thick and thin and who will help lift you up when you’re in a bad place. And you do the same for them? Goddamn that sounds nice right about now.

And by the way, yesterday morning I did get out and shovel the snow. And guess what? IT SUCKED. If you feel like I’m about to tell you the shoveling in the snow caused an asthma attack and I fell no less than four times, well you are correct. Because I did fall and I did have an asthma attack. And to make it all worse, a neighbor going down the road before me spun out and somehow ended up sideways, wedged between the guardrail and the hill, unable to un-stick himself. None of us could get down the hill (unless you wanted to attempt to walk down the ice, slide over the top of the Subaru like you’re in fucking CHiPs outrunning Ponch and John and then never be able to get home because your lungs won’t allow you to walk up the goddamn hill at the end of the day). So I sat in my car for an hour waiting for the wrecker to arrive, hacking and wheezing, with narrowed eyes - glaring at the snow and beauty and majesty. And in that moment I allowed myself to hate myself for being single and hate myself for moving to Vermont and hate myself for hating myself. The feeling passed, but much like my wheeze, it will be back. Its always there, hiding away, waiting to make an appearance to remind you that it exists. But until then, I’ll keep taking my antibiotics, and inhaler, and God willing, if I’m still here next year, I’ll have someone who will be there to quietly help without me asking. But I’m not holding what little breath I have. At least the thaw is coming, right?

SCREAMING INTO THE VOID

If you’ve ever awoken to a faint cry in the distance, the horrid sound of a deep, insurmountable pain, echoing through the ether, wrapping its sorrowful tendrils around you while you lay cozy in bed, sending chills down your spine, and wondered, “what mournful beast could be in such mortal peril?” - wonder no further, my friend, thats just me, attempting to shovel my driveway, solo, again.

Look at all that fucking snow

Look at all that fucking snow

I’m sorry, I know I’m supposed to be a hearty woman who has SEEN * CLAP* SOME * CLAP* SHIT* CLAP * but the reality is, I fucking HATE shoveling. I hate it. I hate waking up, looking outside and it being absolutely magical, like some real snow-globe amazingness, with glitter coated cotton candy flakes everywhere, and instead of being in awe, my heart will immediately sink because I realize in order for me to get out of my driveway it will take approximately an hour of shoveling, four puffs from my rescue inhaler, and about 3 - 5 times of me falling on my ass due to the ice under all that snow. And thats just to get out of my driveway. Thats not even the hellish adventure that awaits when I attempt to drive down my street, which is one of the steepest in town. Most days my brakes lock-up about 3 seconds into the drive, and then its me skidding down a one lane hill, while I scream bloody murder and pray to Satan that the snow plow isn’t awaiting me at the bottom. Its honestly terrible. 90% of my snow related anxiety is due to that fucking hill. Y’all we’re only two months into 2019, and I’ve had to do a lot of fucking shoveling. And a lot of Dukes of Hazzard sliding down my hill. I’m exhausted. Exhausted from shoveling. Exhausted from the cold. Exhausted from looking at my bills and realizing I bought $600 of heating oil first of January and I have to buy another $600 this week. I’m exhausted from being single and having to handle all this shit by myself. I’m exhausted from pretending that living in this Hallmark fever-dream isn’t a little bit harder than I expected.

My 2019 started in stark contrast to how I spent the first couple weeks of 2018. This time last year, I had just gotten back from a trip to the West Coast. I went a few days before New Years to escape the polar vortex that was plunging the East into a Siberian ice-hell, and, looking back, to escape myself. By that point, I had begrudgingly lived in quaint isolation for around 4 1/2 months, and it was showing. And it ain’t a good look. I guess I didn’t have any real exceptions when I moved to Vermont, other than sleeping, walking through the Green Mountains and trying to figure out what the FUCK I was supposed to do with my life. What I didn’t anticipate was my former boss being outed as a predator, and everything that came with that news. The media. The stress. The reliving scenarios over and over again. The lawyers. The conference calls with former coworkers trying to make sense of it all. The people I hadn’t spoken to in decades coming out of the woodwork asking me extremely personal questions, chomping at the bit, hoping that I’d have some sort of salacious answers for them. And when I didn't , the same people would lob accusations about my complicity. And I guess I thought I could move to Vermont and kinda shake off everything that had happened to me like a snake sheds its skin, and emerge, not a new person, but a cleaner, refreshed, invigorated version of myself. But that didn’t happen. Instead, the introspection and reflection covered me in thousands of little paper cuts, that stung and burned and reminded me of everything I wanted to shed. And I also assumed I would lose the weight my doctor said I put on due to being stressed and in fight for flight mode for over 6 years. So I got a personal trainer/ boxing coach, and my full-time job was working out. I drove to Burlington six days a week to box, and row, and do pushups, and box jumps, and kettle bells, and cardio, and whatever else my trainer threw my direction. But nothing happened. I wanted to look in the mirror and see the old me coming back - I wanted to look in the mirror and see the bold, funny, yes, skinner, old me. The one who took risks. The one who laughed. The one who had an endless surplus of creativity. But she didn’t show up. And the weight didn’t fall off. And then, because the world is cruel and things tend to kick you when you’re down, my dumbass went and got a long-distance crush. As one does. And because it came out of the blue, it made me think that, by God, it was really supposed to happen! Why would that appear out of the ether if it wasn’t written in the stars?! I felt that somehow, this was the universe karmically (finally) paying me back! Maybe all that bullshit I went through led me to this. place. right. here. This place where I found someone who, while they seemed way out of my league, for some strange reason, actually liked my brain and personality? It was the perfect fucking Nancy Meyers moment! This was my out of the blue potential love affair that would reinvigorate my soul (and loins) and would catapult me into the awesome and deserved life I’m supposed to fucking have in this adorable little hell-hole! IT WAS FINALLY FUCKING HAPPENING. But, like most things, it was a mirage. And a cruel one at that. There’s something truly crushing about being given the slightest taste of something, something that feels good, something that you didn’t know you needed until you got a bite, and knowing you can’t have it. Having a fleeting moment of hope and then having that snatched away like Lucy pulling Charlie Brown’s football. And a lot of that was due to me, due to the piles of bitterness and shame that envelop me like a cocoon. Looking in the mirror and seeing some sort of lumpy, chubby, hobgoblin who doesn’t believe she deserves happiness or love or sex because it’s been withheld from her for so long. And so, it was with all that and the impending Winter weather hell, that I packed my bags for an extended trip to the West Coast and my former life.

I embraced the Manifest Destiny of it all - I rented a chic hotel for my stay. I booked a private boxing coach because I didn’t want to lose my momentum with training, and I was still hopeful that I’d look in the mirror one morning and be happy with what was looking back at me. And I took general meetings, hellbent on getting back into the industry and back with my friends. Friends who had known me since my first job at Playtone and UCB and my move to Atlanta and then New York and now Vermont. And I went out to drinks with everyone I missed. And I drank oat milk lattes and pretending to like them. Pretended to fit back into my old scene. But my edges were jagged and nothing locked together smoothly for me. I felt like an imposter. But I’m fucking stubborn - so I just jammed myself into my old life - ignoring the discomfort. The little warning bells ringing in the back of my head, singing, “This isn’t good for you, Morgan”. Because being alone in the cold, didn’t feel good either. So I assumed it would be better to embrace the Devil I knew. And I celebrated New Years with champagne and merriment and when I woke up on New Years Day I felt terrible. And not hangover terrible, but I felt so profoundly blue. Something about the dawn of a new day and a fresh year felt like a scab had been ripped off and all that tender, oozing flesh underneath it was exposed. I went with a friend to get our tarot cards read that day. And it was one of the strangest, most intense experiences I’ve had. This woman said things that shook me to the core. And her main point kept being that I used to be a fertile valley, but in the process of nurturing and feeding and tending to everyone else, I dried up. I was cracked, brittle mud. And I had tapped all of myself for others. And eventually, with time and rest and self love and focusing on my own needs, I would be green again. But it wasn’t going to be an overnight process. I needed to work through my karma. Work through my sadness. Work through my pain, and when I was ready, contentment and joy woudl come. But It would not be today. Or tomorrow. Or soon. And I guess I took that shit as a challenge, because my dumbass went all-in and in the midst of all of this, I thought it would be a good idea to be bold and meet that person I had weird, unexplainable long distance feelings about. I joked to my friends that I felt like people were bellowing, “DEAD MAN WALKING” at me as I entered the bar to meet him, because we alllllll knew that would not end well. But, I did it anyway. Because at that point I still thought that if I fucking put the work in, if I worked out everyday and took chances and felt all the hard shit I had to feel, that there would be some sort of fucking cosmic payoff. And the dude? He was lovely and funny and very kind and very, very much not into me in person. Which I assumed would be the case, but I’ll be damned if I didn’t give it the good old college try! I was Bruce Willis giving my pals a thumbs up while going down to blow myself up along with an asteroid. I wasn’t going to make it back alive, but ya gotta give me credit for trying, right? And I extended my trip, because going back to Vermont was going back to reality. I think I knew deep down that I wasn’t going to move back to LA. That the jobs I was meeting about wouldn’t pan out. That blue that I felt was me realizing that my old life was just that. And LA couldn’t be my safety-net anymore.

So instead of escaping reality this year, I chose to, maybe not embrace it, but at least dig into it. I spent my Christmas solo. I spent my New Years Eve, curled up in bed at 9pm, listening to my sleep sounds app. I could’ve ventured down to the local pub, drank way too much and awoke on January 1st worried I’d made an ass of myself as I’ve been wont to do. But I didn’t. And I couldn’t polished off a bottle of wine while watching Bridget Jones Diary and lamenting my singleness, which I’ve also been known to do on a fairly regular basis. But I also didn’t do that. Instead, I did something that I needed. I slept. And I protected myself from the feelings of longing that nights like that can dredge up inside of your guts. Because I realized something about my trip back to LA last year, and why it needed to happen, and why I have to be careful about tricking myself like that again: that trip made me feel legitimately terrible. In my attempt to momentarily flee my realty, what that actually did was put into full view all of the things I missed out on while working myself into an early grave. I missed falling in love. I missed getting my finances in order. I missed having a family. Going on vacations. Spending time with my grandparents who had gotten very old while I wasn’t around. And I missed learning who I am as an adult. Because I just fucking pushed all my shit aside for men who would never appreciate me or my skillsets until I was gone. And thats on me.

And so, here I am - stir crazy and tired in Vermont. When I say I’m single, I mean that in a way that reinvents the definition of “spinster”. After my hideous attempts at online dating here, and watching men’s eyes fall with disappointment when they saw what I look like, which I assume is something on par with a tubby Swamp Thing, I deleted all those apps. Then, right around this time last year, due to the cold making me very cranky and very horny, I decided to throw caution into the wind and go and meet up with a ski bum lawyer from NY happened to be at a mountain an hour away. I had turned down his offers for months, but then figured the worst thing that could happen would be that he murdered me. Sexy time murder might be the best outcome I could imagine for myself here in Vermont. I literally have zero idea what I’m doing otherwise, so why not end up a Dateline special? With Keith Morrison staring quizzically at all my garbage art and stacks of romance novels and ruminating on what a sad life I surly did lead. All my friends getting to sadly shake their heads “yes” as Lester Holt asks if they saw this coming. Better than spending every day staring into the void, so I said fuck it and drove to meet this guy at his hotel near the ski slopes. An hour away, for the record. An hour that was used to remind me that every fucking minute I drove toward this stranger was a very stupid minute indeed. But I arrived at the hotel, and I use the word “hotel” loosely, as it was a Rodeway Inn and it was not what you would call “chic”. My friends now refer to any sort of boning down as “going to the Roadway Inn” - which is hysterical and also really embarrassing. My late 30s have been the Walmart version of Sex and the City. It’s all the grossness and regret, but none of the sensuality. I was definitely creeped out upon arrival at said snowy hovel, but the hunk of a hipster who met me at the door with a deep-ass French kiss, might’ve helped me gloss over more of the unsavory elements of a busted hilltop motel from the dark side of the 70s. This shithole seemed to be ok for the hipster lawyer, a man who liked to spend his money on helicopter trips to remote mountains where he could live out his K2 fantasies, and loved to French kiss, instead of a clean and non-panic inducing abode, but to each their own, ya know? And I guess I had to suck it up it in order for me to live out my “I’d rather not morph into Jack Nicholson in the Shining so I might as well get busy with a stranger fantasy”, so whatever. I’m not proud of this. I was also not convinced that this man, a man I drove over an hour to meet, woudln’t regent me upon site. I was so nervous I dry heaved in a Dunken Donuts drive-though 20 minutes away from the motel. I was convinced, obviously very healthily influenced by former experiences with beefcakes, that the guy would take one look at me and high-tail it up the Mountain, or lock the door and not let me in. But hell froze over, and he didn’t lock me out. He greeted me with a deep French kiss like a total maniac, but I stayed because, I mean - horny and cold and also over an hour from home. And you'll not be surprised to find out that true love did not ensue. Nope, I stayed, and it was awkward and strange and kinda great until I thought about it and then it wasn’t at all and I immediately felt REAL weird about being at a Roadway Inn. But life is truly is a highway and this highway let me to a budget motel and a handsome dude and some deep dicking that did not bring me back to life, but definitely made me question a lot of things. But y’all, . the winter months do weird shit to people here. They make you seek out murder by handsome stranger dick over spending another fucking night alone in your house, drinking wine and watching youtube videos of the making of Steely Dan’s AJA album. But that was last year. This year I haven’t reached that level of insanity, yet, tho I can feel it nipping at my heels. Its coming. This winter has been long. And I’m tired of myself. I’m tired of treading water. I’m tired of pretending that life here is easy and magical when most times its me looking out my window and saying, “what the fuck am I doing??” as I watch people snowshoe through the hills of my neighborhood.

The forecast is calling for another 2-4 inches of snow to fall overnight. That means tomorrow morning, at 5:30am, I’ll be dragging myself out of bed, into my boots and will then attempt to shovel my car out without falling and breaking my ankle or having an asthma attack. And then, after that, I’ll have to see if I can make it down my hill without killing myself or someone else. And, if I’m able to make that happen, then I have to go into work and stand on my feet for hours and have twenty-somethings roll their eyes at me when I ask them to do whatever task is needed. And then I’ll go home again. Lather. Rinse. Repeat. For the duration of the Winter. So, when you’re trying to sleep and you hear that faint scream in the night, know that its me. Shoveling again. And hating it.






♪ Memories, like the corners of my mind ♪

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I suppose, after a around foot of snow over the past few weeks, its safe to say that Winter has officially arrived in Vermont. And, because everything here is equal parts irritating and beautiful, one has to prepare for the onslaught of the snow and cold - you can’t just wing that shit. For Vermonters, this means switching over from their regular summer tires (used for all of a 4 months per year) to the more durable, and, very expensive, “Winters”. Preferably studded. One must also make sure their heating supplies are stocked. In my case, its ensuring that the giant, seemingly wildly dangerous, tank of heating oil that lives in my basement, is filled to the brim. Which is also so, so expensive. And, then there’s the whole pulling out of the heavy jackets, and the snow boots, and making sure your shovel is by the door, etc etc etc. All of those things are imperative to surviving a New England Winter. One that has, apparently, decided to make its entrance a month early. So, with Mother Nature a’knocking, I begrudgingly did all of the things mentioned above. Only I took my preparation one step further - I made an emergency appointment in order to get my rescue inhaler refilled. I did this before I would be forced to shovel my driveway, which would cause me to start wheezing, and inevitably, almost like drop dead like Annabella Sciorra in “THE HAND THAT ROCKS THE CRADLE”. And lest you think I’m being dramatic, I’ve had some experiences that have caused me to keep an inhaler with me at all times.

I’ve mentioned my hellish bosses before, and alluded to one in particular, who has recently been in the news. It probably won’t surprise anyone to know that the person I was referring to is Harvey Weinstein. There’s a bit of a gray area around what we, former employees and assistants, can discuss. Our NDAs were revoked in order to allow those who needed to discuss certain aspects of the job and situations, to be able to do so without his team throwing lawsuits our direction. My lawyer seems to think we’re safe from his lashing out, but who the hell knows at this point? He suffers from, amongst other things, what I call: “Goblin Logic”. This logic causes him to care about and behave in ways that don’t make sense to normal, fully functioning, humans. And so, while I don’t think this specific story is going to come back to bite me, I also can’t be sure. Strap in for this nightmare coaster, pals.

I worked directly for Harvey as his personal assistant, and Harvey is, without a doubt, an asshole, misogynist, sociopath, and a vitriolic bully. Also a complete pile of fetid shit. Everyone in his orbit knew/knows that he was/is a dick. And I absolutely admit to taking the job knowing about his reputation of being a bully (the other allegations I absolutely did not know about). I naively thought that, given my long history as an A-List executive and personal assistant, if I took this job with Harvey, a man who was the pinnacle of filmmaking, I could suck up a year or two, get promoted, and never have to assist EVER. AGAIN. That’s how strong his pedigree was. And, like most things in my life, I was absolutely fucking wrong. So wrong. So, so wrong. Not only did I not get promoted, I left my fucking job with Harvey only to go on and work for other another narcissists, who not only broke my spirit but also crushed me into a million little pieces. Score! Editor’s note: never, ever follow my career trajectory, kids. Its a train wreck of epic proportions. Anyways, what I’m saying is, I knew, to a degree, what sort of person Harvey was capable of being. And, because I’m a mess, I also knew that my greatest skillset up to that point, had been dealing with difficult people. I’ve worked for some nice folks, sure, but I’ve mostly worked for really, really tough dudes. Grade-A assholes. Shitbricks. Fuckfaces. And those dudes, maybe didn’t care for me on the whole, but they tended to respect the fuck out of the fact I could always get the fucking job done. Even while being loathed by them and belittled at every turn. Which is why I was offered the job with Harvey, and why, despite all the red flags, I accepted said job and immediately relocated to New York from L.A. I can honestly say that the only upside I can find from my experience with Harvey and The Weinstein Company, is that the folks I worked with - the other assistants and low level execs - were super, super kind, intelligent, and good people. Those people, like me, just wanted to help make amazing films, the kind we grew up with. And I’m sure they, like me, never imagined that their career trajectory, that was part of their dream to make films and content that matter, would have them peripherally connected to a predator and monster. It’s an awful chapter in my career. But I will defend the goodness of those folks, my fellow assistants, until the end. I consider my former coworkers friends, and, despite it all, I’m glad I know them and that I shared some of the lighter experiences of that hell-hole with them. Even if some shared experiences now include depositions and lawyers.

Anyway, back to Harvey, the King of the Hobgoblins. Surprise, surprise - Harvey was, is, and always will be a horrible, horrible person. I wish I could tell you aaaaaalllllllllll the shit that lead up to the story I’m about to share, but I truly don't have the time nor the cash to preemptively pay my lawyer in order to roll that beautiful bean footage. Let me just say that, the blessing and curse of who I am, is that I don’t back down or let myself get fearful when men scream at me. I probably should have; I would’ve had a much better career had I fucking peaced-out of those situations sooner. But here we are. Anyway, looking back, the first couple of months with Harvey were uneventful. Well, I mean uneventful much like the boat ride up to the shores of Normandy was uneventful for those soldiers. Everything is relative. Sure, things were NOT going well, and they could see death on the horizon, but it also wasn’t a beach strewn with bloody body parts and men shitting themselves from fear…yet. I was sort of buffered from some of the direct path, category 5 hurricane Harvey bullshit. Mainly because they were desperately in need of a personal assistant, and one, who was a bit older. So for that reason, I was spared a little of the insanity. Until I wasn’t. Let’s just say that if you’re a goblin, you’re probably going to have a goblin family. And specific members of said goblin family may not like you, nay, they may hate you with the passion of a thousand suns. And that hatred will bleed into everything, and before you know it, the Goblin King will hate you, too. Deeply. And you’ll go from having a fairly stable work-life, to being a dying extra in Saving Private Ryan in no time. For example, I had two weeks where I wasn’t allowed to speak in the office, at all, because my voice was a “Cancer”. I wish I were kidding. I went from Harvey saying he wanted to make sure I was able to go home early, to staying at the office until 1am on Christmas Eve and same thing on Christmas Day as punishment for being myself. And, in what becomes an ongoing theme in my employment with Harvey, I was ditched. I was ditched in Connecticut at an event and had to figure out another way home. I was ditched at events in the city. I was ditched in the Hamptons. Harvey would get irritated with my intelligence, or my face, or whatever, and just, leave me. I’m not kidding, one time he had his driver peel-out, literally leaving me in the dust at 10pm one evening trapped with his elderly mother. It was incredible. For Harvey, location or time of day or safety of me didn’t matter. Once he was done with me, he was done. And I’d have to figure that shit out. Which, and this is my own shit, most of the time I found that funny. Not funny, “ha ha” but more like, “wow, this sure will be a good story one day”. Only I’d forget that I wouldn’t be able to tell those stories one day, because of said NDA. Also, and I need to remind you, I was a grown ass woman at this point. Someone in their mid-30s. There’s just something so specific, sad, and weird about ditching a grown-ass lady who works for you on the side of the road.

So, with that jumbled mess of a back-story, please join me on a crisp Winter’s day in Tribeca. It was a Friday, not unlike any other. I was tasked with getting checks signed and messengered back before the deadline, which had always proved to be one of the biggest pains in my ass with that position. It wasn’t just finding a window of time - it was planning said time in a way that wouldn’t cause everyone in Harvey’s path to get destroyed by any anger directed towards his bank accounts/me. I had to think of the collateral damage that would be incurred by said check signing - because that was his party trick - taking out his anger on everyone in a fucking two time zone radius. In this case, the checks were wildly overdue and we were approaching zero-hour on some very important things. That meant me doing whatever was necessary to get the checks signed. In this case, after badgering him all day, he decided to scream at me as he was passing my desk, en route to the waiting SUV below which was taking him to the Berkshires, to get my shit and follow him ASAP. The thing you have to understand is, Harvey didn’t say, “come with me”, and wait for you to collect your things, maybe use the restroom, and join him. NOPE! You had to literally go with him at that exact second or you’d be left behind/destroyed. And in this case, I had to get those checks signed, so in my mad dash to leave, I grabbed the checks which were in my laptop bag and nothing else. No jacket. No purse. Just my blackberry and computer bag. I ran to catch up with him in the elevator and could immediately tell that there was a mood a-brewing. This was confirmed when one of my male coworkers also wedged himself in the elevator with us at the last minute. This guy, who is just a doll, is also someone who I referred to as our “canary in the coal mine”. I’m not proud of this, but, it was my experience that IF Harvey seemed to be in a mood, you could always confirm or deny this based on how much he screamed at this specific assistant. Want to see if Harvey’s anger management session stuck? Send in the office Canary. Didn’t get those Oscar noms you thought were a given, and think Harvey is about to implode? Send in the Canary. So having this dude with us - who was dragged from his desk still wearing his headset for the phones - meant that we were basically sitting on a powder keg. He had panic in his eyes, and I realized that we were about to embark on an incredibly awful journey. I was not looking forward to being trapped in a stuffy SUV with a farting, screaming Harvey and us, his human punching bags, but I assumed it would be a quick trip. I knew I’d be eventually be ditched somewhere in the city, hence me not being too worried about a lack of a jacket or purse, what with Uber and all. What would normally happen is that you’d jump in the car starting at 365 Greenwich in Tribeca, and somewhere on the West Side Highway, between Tribeca and West 80th, after Harvey had signed whatever he needed to sign, he’d have the driver pull over and dump ya. From there, you were one Uber ride back to the office. Irritating, but fairly painless. And normally, having Harvey as a captive audience was a quick-ish way to get shit done and be on your way. This would not be the case.

In this case, we had barely gotten onto the West Side Highway, when it became apparent that Harvey was real, real, real, pissy at, I guess everything, but specifically me. He was mad that I needed checks signed. Mad I wasn’t getting one of his kids the right gifts. Mad my voice was grating. Mad. Mad. Mad. And no matter what angle I tried, I could not get him to focus on the fucking checks. His driver careened up the road and the other assistant sat silently while Harvey alternated between taking calls and batting away the checks I was trying to place in front of him. It was as we passed the last exit on the West Side Highway, that the other assistant and I started trading frantic texts, with each mile taking us farther and farther away from safety. And to make matters worse, Harvey had somehow gotten a hold of tic tacs. Harvey does NOT do well with sugar. Any sugar. Even microscopic little fucking tic tacs. And this teeny weenie little plastic thing of tic tacs had a seemingly unending supply of hideous, rage inducing, white mint hell-snacks. Mary Poppins bag couldn’t contain more shit than that fucking little jar of tic tacs. They just kept coming, no matter how many he was pouring them into his mouth. Just shoving them down his gullet with his fat t-rex arms, while screaming and chomping at the same size. The car was too warm and smelled like our fear mixed with his farts and peppermint. Barfs welled up in my throat as Harvey’s driver darted between cars at insane speeds, and sharp, wet shards of tic tac shrapnel spewed out of Harvey’s mouth, hitting me on my cheeks and arms, as he screamed at us. On top of this, I was the one taking dictations, since I stupidly bought my laptop. So, I was typing the sugar-rush dictions of a goblin, while being doused in peppermint spit, when I got a red alert text from the assistant still in the office. All hell was breaking out there too, but, worse, Harvey’s wife was calling, mad about something I did, and they were about to connect her into Harvey and needed me to be prepared. The conversation did not go well. And the subsequent freakout was intense and not fun, given I was trapped in a fucking car inches away from him, and, at this point, and hour and a half outside of the city. All of my texts to the other assistants were variations on, “IM NOT GOING TO THE FUCKING BERKSHIRES WITH THIS ASSHOLE. DO YOU HEAR ME”. And, to my credit, I didn’t. I did not end up going to the fucking Berkshires. Because, due to my incompetence Harvey hit his “Morgan” wall, and before I knew it, he was screaming at the driver and we were barreling towards the next exit. As we pulled into a gas station parking lot, I tried to convince him that I was a better choice to take along because I had my computer. Listen, I did NOT want to continue in the car with him, but I really fucking I hated to see my coworker being driven along in what could potentially become his own personal Bataan Death March. But my attempts were futile and Harvey was DONE with me that day. And it was there, in the parking lot as he was literally pushing me out of the car that he said:

“It’s been such a pleasure spending time with you, MOR-GAAAN” and snorted. To which I dryly responded “Likewise”.

Harvey got flustered, popped some more tic tacs, and screamed in my face, “I was being facetious!!!!!” and slammed the door. And in one of the few moments of real chutzpah, I ran along side the SUV, opened the door, and screeched back at him: “I WAS, TOO!!!!!!”. And before I knew it they sped away. And for a moment, I was really fucking glad to be out of that car. Until I realized what the fuck was happening. And what was happening was that Harvey had dropped me in the middle of a fucking snowscape in upstate New York, hours from our office, sans coat. I was wearing a long sleeved shirt, skirt, tights and boots - jacket was on the back of my chair at my desk, along wth my purse, phone charger, inhaler, etc. And I was cold and standing in a parking lot on the side of the highway trying to figure out where the fuck I was. After frantically attempting to order an Uber/Lyft/Coast Guard helicopter extraction/Car service, to no avail, I took the next step and called the office to enlist their help - only to be hung up on. Not once. Not twice. But three times. At this point, I was cold and very, very angry. What I didn’t realize was, the person hanging up on me, the only coworker stuck in the office rolling all the calls and keeping that shit on track, was being fired. Literally at that exact moment. Because only TWC would have an HR person who decided that mid-day, while the boss had abducted 2/4 of the office while the other assistant is en route to advance a trip, that it would be the best time to fire the only person there. So that person was, rightfully, losing their shit. So, with no options, I spotted what looked to be a train platform across a skybridge, that went across whatever freeway ran below. It looked to be about a 5 minute walk. In what felt like 20 degree weather. And at this point, anxiety, anger and the cold are setting in, so I start walking, then I stop, because the office calls back, apologizes and despite their situation, they’re working to get me a car. So I walk back to the parking lot. A few minutes later, as hypothermia begins setting in, I get another call saying despite their best efforts, there are no cars close, and the hour and a half on the train back to the city would be the best option. So I start walking again. And at this point, I’ve walked back and forth a few times, in the cold weather, sans jacket, and the last walk up the skywalk stairs starts to trigger my asthma. And that’s when it hits me, aside from not having a jacket, I also don’t have a wallet or my fucking inhaler. How am I going to get back to the city if I can’t pay for the train?! PANIC. I try to call the office again, but apparently Harvey has called the person who just got fired, and is now dictating to them and giving them tasks. Even though he just had someone fire them. It’s pure chaos, and I’m on my own. PANIC. I keep walking towards the platform, and at this point, I’m gasping for air. PANIC. Fun fact about asthma: something that can make it exponentially worse, and hit faster, is to panic. You know what causes panic? Being alone on an unknown train platform, sans money, or inhaler, and with a dying phone, all while trying to figure out how the fucking hell to get a train ticket back to the city. At this point, I start crying. I try and scream for help, but there is not a single person in any direction on this abandoned platform and nothing but a wheeze comes out anyway. I am pathetic. I thought I remembered seeing a pay phone, but it was back up the stair case and across the skywalk where I had just come from. There’s no way my busted-ass, garbage lungs would get me that far. And it was at this point that I inexplicably start getting hot and sweaty. Like, noticeably sweaty. Mind you, its 20 degrees outside and I’m in skirt and shirt with no jacket. So now I reeeeeeally panic, as I’m pretty sure my body is shutting down. And in my panic, I violently dump everything in my bag onto the platform AND strip off my long-sleeved top, so that the white camisole, which should never see the light of day, is the only thing I’ve got up top. Said camisole on Kate Moss in a CK One AD would be provocative, this camisole on my pudgy, sweaty, wheezing frame, with the bonus of all of my mascara running down my face in streams, made me look insane in ways that are hard to describe. l was like some sort of dying, feral, monster - clawing through the garbage dumped from my bag, scratching at the ground in search of something.

I’m just going to pause right here - because I want to note that, I’ve heard it said that many people have near death experiences and its in those times that everything becomes clear. It all just makes sense. An experience that is both life changing and life affirming. FUUCUUCK THAT. This was not that sort of experience. As I was digging through the loose change, tampons, pens, tubes of lip balm , hair ties, pay stubs, etc - mascara streaking my face, while wearing a fucking undershirt like an insane raccoon, the only thing affirmed was that I wanted to die very quickly. To be put out of my misery. I did have an out of body experience, though. I levitated above myself and saw that pathetic scene and said, “OH HELL NO!”. And then, in all that carnage, the assistant who happened to be en route to the airport (not the one still trapped on a Highway to Hell with Harvey and not the one who was fired) called me about something unrelated, realized I couldn’t talk, and tried to track my phone so he could call an ambulance. Now, calling an ambulance would have been the absolute correct thing to do. However, I had taken a wild-ass pay-cut to move to New York. Which, folks, never, ever take a PAY CUT if you’re moving to New York!! But, as you’ve noticed, I’m an idiot who makes bad decisions. And I really thought I could leverage the Weinstein gig into not ever assisting again(ha), and therefore living in abject poverty would be worth it in the long run. Wrong. And even in the midst of my impending death via asthma on a train platform, I had a bottom line, and by my calculations, it would’ve been cheaper for me to die right there on the platform, rather than paying for an ambulance and ER experience. I just couldn’t afford it. So I did what the other assistant did to me. I hung up. I hung up and threw my phone down. Lips blue. Scrambling for something in that garbage pile - when I found it!! A wad of cash! Enough for a train ticket, I figured. Only I couldn’t climb the stairs to where the ticket kiosk was located. And I really didn’t think anything could be worse than it was at that moment, but SURPRISE! First, my phone started ringing again nonstop. It wasn’t the assistant, it was Harvey’s wife. And she she was VERY mad at me and called and called and called, and even when I finally tried to answer but couldn’t talk because, impending death, she didn't give a shit and called again once I hung up. Death is bad enough, but death with a soundtrack of an angry goblin wife’s nonstop phone calls in the background is too much to bear. And then, it got so much worse. With the wife calling and calling and calling, and me wheezing into my pile of bag garbage, I saw movement coming down the stairs. I turned to face the coming evil and knew in my heart of hearts what it would be before I even saw it - Jesus Christ it was a gaggle of teens!!! Some real shitty, Gossip Girl looking fuckers! Teens are mean and judgmental and terrifying while in packs. And they were coming up on me like I was a wounded yak and they the pack of hyenas ready to laugh at my decrepit, sad body before snarfing me whole. It was all too much. I wanted to just hurry up and die, but it was obvious God had other plans. For some horrible reason, my survival instincts kicked in and I gestured at the teens with the wad of money - pitifully pointing to the ticket kiosk. One kid inched forward, grabbed the wad from my hand like I had a disease and went and bought me a ticket. All the teens snickered under their breath and eyed me with a mix of pity and disgust. Honestly, I felt the same way. If I had any sort of lung capacity I would’ve happily told them how embarrassed and pathetic I felt, and how chasing your dreams sometimes leads you to working for a monster and being in your mid-30s and wanting to die because this is where your life has taken you - to this exact moment - and whooo boy, ain’t that a bitch! But I didn’t say anything. I accepted the ticket and tried to catch my breath enough to function. And I did, eventually. I think having a group of people around, even if said group looked like the cast of Heathers, helped me to know I would be ok. And with the sound of the train in the distance, I scooped up all the garbage I spilled on the tracks and attempted to pull myself together. I put my shirt back on (to everyones joy) and picked up my phone. The wife still wouldn’t stop calling, so I text her assistant letting her know what was happening, and to please handle her until I was able to, ya know, breath. By the time the train pulled up, I was able to function enough that I could get myself onto the train and into a seat. I leaned my head on the window and just started sobbing. Well, it was more of a wheeze-sob, but you get the picture. Holy shit, I was so tired and mortified and over it all. But I had made these choices - the choice to work for a monster in return for the chance to never, ever be stuck doing this shit again. And as I sat on that train, slowly moving back towards civilization and my life, I knew that wasn’t true. I knew that I would continue to be put in situations like the one I was in, over and over and over again. I would never get that promotion. Never truly earn their respect. I was Sisyphus with busted-ass lungs.

I remember the train pulling back into the city, it was Friday night, and there’s nothing more electric than New York on a Friday night. The air pulses with promise. But, what I felt was an overwhelming sense of dread. I spent the entire two hours of the train ride vacillating between anger over Harvey’s actions and minimizing them. I also spent the train ride straght-up ignoring Harvey’s wife and her incessant calls. And I knew there would be hell to pay for both of those actions, just in different ways. So, I braved the throngs, grabbed an uber, and headed back towards 375 Greenwich. I stopped at the liquor store up the street first - bought a couple bottles of wine - and then went back to the office. The rest of the Weinstein Company had left for the night - the only glow of lights were coming from behind the door that lead to Harvey’s wing and our bullpen. My story of woe was just one of three that night. The male assistant had made it back to the city around the same time I did, he happened to have been ditched in an area a little further up the road, but closer to a car service. He had been through some shit the day. The fired assistant was still there, expected to work for another few weeks, despite it all. They had been though some shit that day. And then there was me. And I tried to make them laugh. And poured glass of wine after glass of wine. And minimized my own anger and fear and disappointment over how my day had gone. Because, I was 10 years older than them, and I was mortified that I had the sort of day I had. So we vented and some cried, but we all tried to laugh about the insanity of it all. Laugh and say, “boy won’t this be a wild story to tell”. And then I did my duty, wine drunk and numbed to my own anger, and called Harvey’s wife back and allowed her to scream at me. And I took a cab home at midnight, and picked up the phone when Harvey called to bitch about something else I had done, not bothering to stand up for myself, because what was the point? And the next morning, after a trip to the minor emergency clinic for a breathing treatment, I went into the office to catch up on the work I missed the day before, while being trapped in a car and sprayed with spit and tic-tac shrapnel.

It’s taken me another horrible boss, a move to Vermont, lots of self help books and introspection to even try and process what I put up with and subjected myself to while working in a deeply flawed and problematic industry. One that I desperately wanted to succeeded in, and I see now, I allowed myself to deal with more than I should’ve in order to make that happen. And it never happened, by the way. So now I’m here, in Vermont, living in a Hallmark Channel fever dream, and I still don’t have answers or feel totally at peace, but I do know one thing now. One thing that I’ll never forget: ALWAYS, ALWAYS CARRY A FUCKING INHALER ON YOUR PERSON!!!